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even if you think you’re ugly….so much can be improved with skincare, a great haircut and the right makeup. there is always hope.

Ok, if I was really ugly and couldn’t look decent without plastic surgery, I’d work on my personality, intelligence, humor, grace, and charm. There’s so much more to people than their outward appearance. If I was lacking deeply in one area - I’d build up my other areas.

I bet you’re not that ugly, seriously

I feel so sorry! I’m like that too, no matter what, I feel so ugly and different from other girls. But as steff says, you should try a makeover, it may not be the solution for the whole problem, but it’ll help your confidence a bit.

What helps me is trying to find my sense of uniqueness. Sure, I’m not a knockout, but I can stand out. I try to have nice clothes, but I also try to find my own style while being comfortable. I sometimes wear make up, or try something different on my hair. Also, I take the time to do skin care routines. It helps my confidence to know I’m taking care of it.

You know, I’ve noticed how we tend to be so harsh on ourselves. I have a friend who is short, wears glasses and has some acne. She’s still so pretty and guys like her because she’s also very friendly and upbeat. She, however, is so self conscious about her acne. But once you get to know her, you barely notice it. I never noticed it until she complained about it. She feels so ugly, but really, that’s not what other people see. Most of my friends have these sort of hang ups and feel uglier than everyone else, when other people don’t think they’re ugly at all!

Really, I’m kind of in the same situation so I’ll not give you the “it’s the inside that counts, I’m sure your beautiful” bull, because it doesn’t help. What I can tell you is that there is hope, and that most of the time we worry way too much, when other people don’t notice half of the flaws we perceive.

Now, this is also an option, but you may consider getting medical help. Maybe go to a dermathologist to check up on your skin, or go to a gyneacologyst or endocrinologyst to see if there are any hormonal imbalances. Also, age may be a factor, as usually (if you’re a teen) you’ll be in an awkward face until well past your early twenties and eventually you’ll grow into a pretty woman. I’ve seen it happen, real ugly ducklings out there that turned out to be real and glorious swans!

Finally, and trust me on this, every small step helps you feel more confident. If you take care with clothes, lotions, make up, perfume, etc, you won’t change your genetic make up, but trust me, you’ll get a confidence boost from taking care of yourself, and that WILL make you feel more beautiful. Visit the salon and ask them to revamp your style, maybe get some highlights or a new color. Exercise also helps you feel better, healthier and more vital, it lifts the mood tremendously.

Good luck! The goal is that you feel happy, comfortable and confident in your own skin. I’m working on it!

Somebody out there sees the beauty in you. Whether it be internal or external.
Lets go back to the reknown saying “Beauty is only skin deep” every word of it is true.
There is so much more to life than how you look. Beauty is superficial, and it only lasts so long. There is something beautiful in every person. Concentrate on the finer things in life. Maybe books are you things, or sports, or school, or WHATEVER you are good at. True beauty is from the heart.
Find other things that draw people to you. Beauty is vain. And maybe you dont follow the traditional stereotype of what is “beautiful” in society. But it is the diversity amung people and the vairiances between us that makes every peron unique and individually beautiful.
If you walk out your front door with a smile on your face and show the world all the love in your heart, people are going to treat you better. Find the confidence from within and find something that makes you truely happy. You are going to feel so beautiful and then your going to find that your just as beautiful as you feel.

Who says your ugly? you or other poeple?

If you think your ugly then maybe seeing a therapist would be a good idea. No one is ugly, we all come in different ways. Go and find some new make up, some new clothes, somthing yuo look wonderful in.

If other peple say it and you just believe it then there is nothing I can do, you have to decide what you are and what you look like. If you think of yourself as ugly then you are ugly and only you can deal wiht that but if you belive yousef to be pretty then you are pretty.

Go and do somthings that make you feel more feminem,, more pretty, go out with some friends, tell them whats going on, theyll help you feel more pretty buy shopping, makeup ect. but dont worry about it, if somone likes you only for looks then there is no hope for them, ou want them to like you for what you have inisde not outside and what you have on it.

I have another thing to add. This is about me actually.

when I was younger, I was like the ugly of ugly. Any unattractive features, you name it I had it. Glasses, Short, overweight, achne, braces, ect ect… I struggled through that for years. But during those years, I learned so much about myslef. While other girls were trying new diets and new makeup and getting thier hair done, I focused on other things, Like helping OTHER people, making OTHER people feel good. I became completely selfless during my developing years, and am still like that today.
As time went by, I changed. I am the story of the ugly duckling. Im seventeen now. I have completely changed, and I am proud to say that I am beautiful. I was offered the opportunity to work as a model for an agency in Edmonton, but I declined the offer. I wanted more from life than focusing on the “ideal, perfect, or beautiful” image.
Im going to college now. I have a wonderful boyfriend, and I am so comfortable with myself, and I feel so wonderful.
What I really want to get accross to you is that, there is more to life than being beautiful and perfect. Its our imperfections that make us beautiful. Dont dwell on the fact that you are “ugly” because in reality you arnt. Life has much more in store for you than being beautiful.

it matters what is on the inside not the outside