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it’s really hard

that is true. grief is longing for happiness that once existed in the past.
are you ok? what went on with you?

It’s worth it in the long run

People fight for love. So you can’t say its not worth it.
If we fight for love when we know its only going to hurt us then why do we?
And even to taste it for that split second, people would give up almost everything for it.

So trust me, I know first hand. I just got dumped after 4 years of dating the best person for me, and she left me for some guy across the ocean she never met until today (and we broke up 2 months ago)

And this feeling I have now…Its totally worth it

You should give it a shot.
Just go with it

But then you’re missing out on the greatest feelings you could ever wish for.

But its still there non the less
And love has the most effects on ones body. It can controll every part of someones body. So its not just a simple Chemical Reaction

I’m sorry about your friend, but its not a path of which you should base your life around

For instinse, my best friend recently died in a car accident.
I still drive, Ya I still even speed even though it resulted in his death
you can’t let things like that stop you.

hmm…i can kind of relate on not being loved etc…but i feel a lot of gratification in giving love..which is through being there for friends and people in your life who’ve been stepped on or are at their worst….and your concern for your friend is love….the fact that u felt his pain…is it not? i don’t think love is that pretty little thing with a bow on top…love is pure concern for others (by that i mean wanting them to be happy, being there for them, not wanting harm to come near them, being there through thick and thin even sometimes when they’ve hurt you previously but they need you at the moment). Also, i think if you begin to give love you will receive eventually…
p.s. im really sorry about your friend..may he rest in peace…

Like I say, you’ll never know till you try

There seems to be many thoughts going all at once in your mind. You are over-thinking. You may even possibly be slightly depressed because of what happened to your friend. First of all, depression is a state of mind that cannot be changed by over analyzing everything. You need to find professional help if that is the case.

I can assure you that many of us are desperately seeking love for not having had it as we were growing up. I felt it was lacking very much in my teenage years. Love was all that mattered to me… until one day I found someone who was able to give me what I had been missing so much. I can tell you now that if for any reason, this person was not in my life anymore, I would be just fine. He has given me what I needed and now I do not feel this hunger anymore.
It is good to share your life with another person but it is also quite alright to live it on your own. The most important thing is to learn to love yourself, to understand that you deserve to be happy and fulfilled and to know how to be good to your own self.

Dear Broken, people do not commit suicide because they have lost love. They commit suicide out of desperation, for not having ever found the love that they needed in their lives.

Love does not hurt that bad. Love is nurturing, giving, understanding and warm. And although you wished that I would tell you that it’s not worth it, I’m sorry but all I can say is that it really does exist.

You just have to keep believing and it might just find its way to you. And even if it wasn’t to last forever, believe me, it most definitely is worth it!

P.S. I will say a special prayer, just for you tonight before I sleep.

Marylou :)

in my opinion, people place too much of their fate in the hands of other people. i understand the need for companionship, but to go into a depression because someone doesn’t return your feelings? please, that’s just selfish.

what’s wrong with people? don’t people want to be healthy? what is this? do they ENJOY being the victim here?

people will never be satisfied, that is the ultimate problem. they can never be happy with what they have.

that isn’t love at all.

i don’t understand you. are you the same as ‘broken’ or a different person?

ah. why don’t you just use the same email? works the same from every computer.

but besides that, whats the matter? another victim of heartache?

oh, the lack thereof. i was not criticizing you in my previous reply, i was critizing self-destruction in the name of love. to me, that isn’t love at all.

love is a reason for living, not a reason for dying.

every person has a heart. even I have a heart. it is your choice alone whether or not to use it.

Broken, Lacuna wants to help and so do I… and so did Spacejockey at the top.
You seem to be the one who does not want to participate.
No one can force you to take what others want to give you. That is your own choice.
And even if we are not totally right about what we are trying to say to you, why can you not believe that we are taking this time for you simply out of love?

I am a happy person. It wasn’t always as simple as that in my own life. But I know that with persistance and faith in life, things can improve in ways that you sometimes cannot even start to imagine. I am only hoping that you will make an honest effort to help yourself. I think you have made one very small step in coming here and writing about this. The road can be long before your mind finds comfort but everything can also change for the better in a matter of seconds for you. It has for me… but don’t think that it was due to an outer element because it wasn’t. My own revelation came from within.

You have to keep looking for your answers and believing that there is hope. Never give up. It’s the only way that you will make it to the shore. Life is not all smooth sailing. It teaches us lessons. We have to accept that. It’s the way it is.

I forgot to mention YourNemesis…
You will actually find a lot of people that truly want to help here.
I really wish you the best. Keep opening up and read what others have been through also. It might help you see things differently.

i’m_broken wrote:
Lacuna, I don’t think you want to help, you want to hear where I’m f.u.c.k.i.n.g. up so your inflated self serving ego can be satisfied by telling me what you think is help just because it works for you.

if you do not want any help then i can give up trying to assist you. it seems that you aren’t looking for any solutions, you are simply looking for a place to complain.

there is no reason to be hostile to people you are trying to help you.

so? help is help. it seems that you need a more forward approach anyway. in so many posts i see you take people’s replies and apply them to yourself. you need to directly confront your situation if you’re going to get over whatever is bothering you.

broken wrote:
I am incapable of giving or receiving love.

and besides, who are you to lecture me when you say things like this? why am i not allowed to help?

Broken,
I’ve read all. Listen, are you perhaps afraid to truly give love, or more afraid you can’t. Are you afraid period?
Cause this thing called love makes us flutter, fight, sacrifice, perform unbelievable acts of courage, makes us put someone before us, makes us keep on keeping on, makes life worth living.
Do not wear a guise of being unworthy when it is fear that stops you from what you really seek, and want.

you’re back!

how can any person be unworthy of love? isn’t the ability to experience love what makes us human?

from what i’ve read that you’ve written, you don’t seem like a terrible person. isn’t there anything or anyone that YOU love?

I can relate to not feeling worthy….it’s not something you can help..it’s just a feeling you can’t get rid of…I dont know why..so i’m seeking help for this…maybe you should see a therapist for this aswell…not saying that anything is wrong with you but i can relate..professionals know what they’re doing and they have the best shot at helping you out….