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So i’ve known this girl for about 3 years.

she has never had a boyfriend or anything like that and we have been in love for 3 years. We never had the title but it was there then a lot of stuff came up. She got a job and stuff and things happen. Anyway…at this time we could be seen as going out but it was never said..well she said she would see me as her boyfriend i was okay with taht then i asked her out. so she has been working at her job for about 2 months or less and out of nowhere she starts going to the movies with this guy. She says its nothing he has a girlfriend and a kid. I believe her. Next thing I know she is moving in with him. I ask why doesnt he movie in with his girlfriend. til this day I dont get a answer about that. Makes me wonder if he even had one. What should I do? I dont think she gets that its really not cool to just move in with this guy. she didnt even ask if i was okay with this or anything just wants to live with him. even her mother is like you wont last out in teh world like that you just even started your job. She doesnt care she wants to do this. I’m at a lost of what to do or how to feel. I need some help

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

If i were you, I would be pretty suspicious. You don’t just move in with someone like that and not have “something” between you. Especially with no official title between you and her. Maybe her not actually saying you were going out was her leaving that option open. No open commitment, not strings attatched. Talk to her about it, don’t let her brush it off, make her feel guilty if you have to, just get the truth.

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Chickens offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Don’t make it sound demanding, Chicks don’t like demanding guys much

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (32 minutes after post)

true, but if it turns out like it seems it won’t matter too much will it? Personally i would rather know the truth and end it than live in the dark and not be her only one.

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1 year, 3 months ago (33 minutes after post)

we have the title now and shes doing the whole moving in with hm thing. I want to know the truth too. The fact that i dont is what is killing me. I think I will talk to her. I just needed to know i wasnt crazy for feeling this way. thanks man!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (43 minutes after post)

no problem, hope it works out for you the way you want, or at least the way thats best for you. they aren’t always the same.

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