girl help: I have this body image situation I need help with.

petalpicker

I have this body image situation I need help with.

I was a pretty overweight teenager, and in recent years I’ve lost most of that extra weight. I’m actually wearing between size 4 and 6 pants at this point, and this was my goal for years. The problem is, I’m shocked at how far I feel I still need to go. I’m a pretty short girl with a small frame, so even at this size, it’s possible for me to still be a good 15-20 pounds overweight. People who’ve known me for a long time are constantly telling me how good I look now, and congratulating me on having lost so much weight, but it scares me that I’m still not happy with how I look.

I don’t think I’m heading toward an eating disorder or anything like that. I’ve lost the weight by being much healthier, and I’ll continue with my plans, I just need to figure out how to be more content with where I am.

My boyfriend unknowingly exasperates my anxiety about all of this. He’s super-supportive of me and tells me I look good on a regular basis, so this isn’t about him being a **** or putting pressure on me to lose more weight or anything, don’t get me wrong. He’s just attracted to really skinny girls and I get freaked out at how different I look than them.

I know this is silly. I just need some help finding peace with where I am right now. Anyone been in a similar situation? Have any practical advice for calming down about it all?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Im still fat… I hate myself so i cant say

Sir Evan 11 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Those Model-skinny girls are gross.
Most guys will not be in to that.

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petalpicker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Yeah, exercise has always been something I’ve had a hard time committing to. I don’t know why, because I really do enjoy it. I think that might be the ticket.

The Missing Piece 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

How Did You Lose Weight..? I Need To Start, 13 Stone Atm =l
Trying To Lay Off The Cakes & Crisps & Run Every Day So..

Help me with: I’m broken & empty inside.

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The Missing Piece 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I Know, Apparently Ive Lost Weight, But 13 Stone + At 14 =l

Help me with: I’m broken & empty inside.

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petalpicker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

d93 - I lost the weight very slowly, and just had to learn how different foods effect my body. Counting calories is a good way to start. When I first started losing a lot of weight, I bought a calorie counter book that tells you the calorie amount in almost any food. I would write down everything I ate - and you have to pay attention to portion size - and add it all up at the end of the day. For my size, I found 1100 calories to work well on days I wasn’t getting a workout in, 1300 for days I was. There’s a great site, myfooddiary.com that can do all that work for you. It’s $9 a month to be a member, and it’s worth it. They even calculate how much you should lose per week based on what you eat each day. It’s awesome.

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The Missing Piece 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Thanks :] Theres A Calorie Counter Lying Around, & A Treadmill :D
Im Around 80kg, 160 pounds..

Help me with: I’m broken & empty inside.

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The Missing Piece 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Im a boy :P

Help me with: I’m broken & empty inside.

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petalpicker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (42 minutes after post)

no no, I am a girl, d93 is a boy.

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petalpicker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (44 minutes after post)

because boys have body image issues too? i’m ok with it.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Im kind of just like you but i only got down to a size 7 and im short. My problem now is exercise and getting enough calories. I tend to not eat enough food so my body holds on to fat.

petalpicker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (50 minutes after post)

Yeah, I have a friend who does that. She seems to think that by starving herself for half the day, she’ll lose some weight but she ends up eating the wrong things at the wrong times and gets no results. I know that’s not quite the same as what you’re talking about. My problems with exercise are that I have a weird gym phobia I’m trying to get past and that it’s so hot out where I live in the summer that going out for exercise is close to suicide. And something about workout videos just really makes me roll my eyes.

Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (2 hours, 13 minutes after post)

I love exercising i just havent been to the gym in a few months. Im going to start REAL soon though. What are things that you eat for breakfast lunch and dinner and what do you eat as a snack.

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