friends help: …so…there is so much going on right now and i just - Help.com

I can sympathize with you, I have a LOT going on in my life too. I am here to talk.

Do have an AIM? We can start a group chat.

my mom is kinda getting over her breast cance
yah i have aim

I feel down and depressed, I feel no matter how hard I try, I will end up feeling bad.

send nalyd4president a message, I will invite you to a group chat.

beatricegalant wrote:
I feel down and depressed, I feel no matter how hard I try, I will end up feeling bad.

why do you feel down?

I put so much effort, energy, love, nurturing, caring to raise my daughter to become what she was interested to become and now everything is falling apart. She is 18, I divorced her father not long ago who used her as a pawn to get back at me. She ended up cutting herself. Before all these, she was A+ student with a bright future. She is talented in music, writing, she was in a group at school called Free the Children, or Ryan’s Well, they raised so much money for these causes…and now she wants to give up everything because she can’t get over her loss. Her father refuses to keep in contact with her. She called him left messages on the phone just to see him, he refuses to even know about her. It hurts her very much and it affects her relationship with a boyfriend. I am so very sad!

that sounds so tough honey, i know how much that hurts as the child, and to be used as a pawn.
my advice would to be just love her even if she pushes you away, just keep encouraging her all you can, and hope she changes her mind. tell her how talented she is, she needs to hear that, more than anything i bet she just feels regected. i am so sorry your in this situation

Yes, she feels rejected. Her self-esteem is totally destroyed to the point she has no courage to apply for a summer student job because she’s already scared of being rejected.

that is so horrible, is there anyway you could talk to your ex, just to show him what he is doing to his child

No, and I refuse to talk to him. I took my daughter to psychiatry, to social workers, to therapy but none helped her really. One pushed medication, the other was over the moon, and the third one didn’t make any sense to her. Out of all these people the only positive thing that came out was one sentence: I cannot push her to do that. It will be up to her and her father to find peace once again. I cannot keep her away from him either and I am not intended to, but I think it is better for her not to see him since when she did, he always put her down and told her “you are a loser” when she told him what she wants to do for a living. If I’d seen him now, I would punch his nose.

i understand your frusteration, but i think all you daughter wants is his approval, and you wont talk to your ex. is there anyway you could figure something out with him. maybe all three of you guys go to conciling, you seem like an amazing mother and person that just wants the best for your daughter and that is admirable

Thank you so much Anon for your encouraging words, something I wanted to hear for a very long time. I was beginning to think I am a bad mother. No, absolutely not, I won’t get together with this jerk. We tried long time ago, one therapist suggested it, he even went to my ex’s workplace personally to invite him to a family session, no way he would.

Unknown101 Is there anything you wanna talk about:)?

hey i know you, i was about to shout hi to you. how are you?

I don’t care. You can talk to me anon or 101 or Smiley or…

You were about to shout me?

:) I didn’t mean that as “I don’t care.” I meant I don’t care if you keep changing your name:) I’m going to go run down two flights of stairs and get a box of nutter butter cookies:) I’ll be right back.

Smily 101 wrote:
Yes , i saw you were on, so i was going to say hiand i just changed my name, i like upbeat things, it makes everyone in a good mood, i just keep 101 the same so people will reconize me. so how are you

I didn’t know that, sometimes I think I have seen your replies but did not recognise you. That is funny:) I’m great. I’m sitting down to take the afternoon off, it is too hot in this office to be getting much work done.

I try to take care of the ranch in the am before it get’s too hot. The coyotes and rabits have been chewing on the irrigation. In the afternoon I write. I manage an organic ranch in the mountains. What do you do with your time?

Sometimes:) Well not in the summer:) I’m counting down the days. I do not miss my days in biology class, well I take that back. I loved the course on photosynthesis. I had always believed the sun performed magic within plants, I found it so simple yet fascinating.

Do you want to see a picture of my visitor last night?

i agree, i enjoy biology-not homework- im taking the advanced class so thats why i have to go to summer school…
yes i do!, is it your pigen/dove?

I just plugged my camera in, Un momento:)

http://img182.imageshack.us/img182/97…

It’s a taranchula, I should have put my hand in the picture for some sort of size comparison. It is about the size of my hand, maybe 5 inches across.

No. It was on the door frame when I opened the door to let the dogs out last night.

No not in my hand by my hand for the picture. They are not agressive with people unless provoked.

I don’t provoke them. “I have lots of little friends:)” Did you see my post about the dove?

Tell me about one of your little friends:)

Owwww that is so sad, coyotes are vicious. We have them around here almost every night.

Smily 101 wrote:
so, if your not too busy could i take you up on the offer to talk to you, in the post i posted, if you read above i didnt get much help but thats my falt, if you dont want to listen to me complain thats fine just say so…

I don’t mind at all, what is going on with you?

Yes I just reread our conversation.

i know:) What is bothering you?

Is it your dog Penelope, I would be very upset over what has happened.

Your life is complicated. I think it’s good that your little brothers see each other. Vacines aren’t all good, it is a numbers game with some of them http://www.nvic.org/

Your mom loves you, she is a very sick woman, I’m not sure she is in complete control of herself or her emotions.

Smily 101 wrote:
i have no controll or say in the shot decisions. i dont talk to her or randy much

That must be worrysome for you.

She might need some time on her own. Not all women are cut out to take care of others. I’m glad the radiation is killing the cancer and not her.

You are doing what you can. Let go and let God take care of the rest. It is not in your control. Ask him to carry the burden for you and he will.

Did I step on your toes?

Smily 101 wrote:
i have prayed to keep my brother safe and he has answered that, he has not been hurt. but i have praye do make them happy and it did not work… i am grateful he is protecting my brother though, and i cant ask for much more

Are they doing anything to make God happy. I’m sure he is keeping your brother safe. He takes care of the lost sheep:)

Well you know the TOS Don’t mention the G word 1st:) ha ha ha

Your family at least the women seem to be jealous of you. How far are you along in school?

Smily 101 wrote:
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Sorry my computer connection wigged out.

Does she pray? Does she thank him for what she has? Every breath is a gift and if we obey his laws the final gift is everlasting life.

You are an old soul, 10th grade, I would have guessed college.

Smily 101 wrote:
i think she prays, i dont know if she gives thanks, wether or not she deserves to be happyiv got the old soul thing alot…lolwhen i volunteer at the schools everyone thinks im a mother…lol

She will be happy if she serves God, it is not a free ride. I believe our time on Earth is a testing ground, most of us won’t make it. He gave us free will for a reason, he expect action/efforts on our part to serve him. You are an old soul because you have had to be more responsible than most people at your age. Someday you are going to do a good job at taking care of yourself.

My son is 1/2 Cherokee and this is what we believe:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JpJjs…

Death and life are to both to be celebrated. Death is a rebirth. I do not believe the ones to live to be 80 are necessarily the lucky ones:)

Smily 101 wrote:
i enjoyed the video… only if we could take back what we have done to return to innocence,

You do not have a magic wand and neither do I. If you ask Jesus to live in your heart and be the ruler of your life you will be free of any guilt, any pain. You will have a new heart and lose the one of stone.

Smily 101 wrote:
you are very wise and i take everthing you say to heart you have helped me so much that is beyond explainaion….but what if i cant get rid of the guilt and i dont want to loose my stone heart-i need it to be strong

You will no longer need to rely on yourself, Jesus will be your strength. You will ask when you are ready and he will know.

i am being called upstairs it is my turn for the use of the shower, so i must go i would love to continue the converstaion some other time though. thank you so much for all that you have done. and you can shout me anytime you want. i may be young but i can listen. thanks again…bye

i know i should do that, i have tried but i think i am afraid of devoting myself so fully to anything or anybody, i will learn in time

i really am leaving now lol

TTFN:)

What’s up poster?
I apologise if I haven’t read all the other responses!

But talk away :)

I’m good:) I’m also a Patriot and my country (USA) needs to make some good choices right now.

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…!” Hosea 4:6