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hey, i need some advice,

i’ve always been very anti-social, but not by choice-i’m just not a very social person. I don’t know how to interact with people and therefore i don’t have friends; it’s very hard; wehnever i need to talk to soemone about soemthing, i have to repetitively think about what i’m going to say beforehand…and even then, it’ll still be very awkward. However, a year before, I decided to really make an effort since i was going to be starting university soon ; i even attempted to look for a “how-to-make friends”, step-by-step guidebook….(please don’t laugh). So, for the past year, i DID manage to make friends…but only through my roommate. I’ve also notice that my grades have gone very, very down…and that’s probably because i’ve been making too much of an effort in making friends ( I spent alot of time observing othr people to see how they’ll react to different stuff being said to them etc and also other stuff…).

So now, i’m not sure whether i should still sttempt on making friends, or just go back….IMO, friends, although fun at times, can be so tiring and botehrsome, but at the same time…i thought that it was nice to be friends….because they amek you feel warm?? (hah).

Even so, i believe that if i was just a loner….i would be better off because i can just concentrate on school-work and not friends…i feel that at this time, i need to concentrate on work and having freinds are just too distracting….however, i don;t REALLY want to get rid of my friends… I don’t think that i can handle teh both of them because i don’t KNOW how!..i mean i’ve been trying to….but it’s just too hard….

can anyone help me? does anyone know what i should do or where i should go to help?…anyone know a free online psychologist….???

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SarahRahRah offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I found a great site on stumbleupon, I’ll try and find it for you!

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SarahRahRah offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Here it is,

http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/over…

I really hope it helps, it makes sense to me!

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hey, i need some advice,
i’ve always been very anti-social, but not by choice-i’m just not a very social person. I don’t know how to interact with people and therefore i don’t have friends; it’s very hard; wehnever i need to talk to soemone about soemthing, i have to repetitively think about what i’m going to say beforehand…and even then, it’ll still be very awkward. However, a year before, I decided to really make an effort since i was going to be starting university soon ; i even attempted to look for a “how-to-make friends”, step-by-step guidebook….(please don’t laugh). So, for the past year, i DID manage to make friends…but only through my roommate. I’ve also notice that my grades have gone very, very down…and that’s probably because i’ve been making too much of an effort in making friends ( I spent alot of time observing othr people to see how they’ll react to different stuff being said to them etc and also other stuff…).

So now, i’m not sure whether i should still sttempt on making friends, or just go back….IMO, friends, although fun at times, can be so tiring and botehrsome, but at the same time…i thought that it was nice to be friends….because they amek you feel warm?? (hah).

Even so, i believe that if i was just a loner….i would be better off because i can just concentrate on school-work and not friends…i feel that at this time, i need to concentrate on work and having freinds are just too distracting….however, i don;t REALLY want to get rid of my friends… I don’t think that i can handle teh both of them because i don’t KNOW how!..i mean i’ve been trying to….but it’s just too hard….

can anyone help me? does anyone know what i should do or where i should go to help?…anyone knwo a freen online psychologist….???

katlover1 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (7 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Hey, i know how you feel. I’m also very introverted and have a very difficult time even talking to people, let alone making friends. And the friends I do have, I feel that I don’t want to spend to much time around them or with them, its not that they’re bad people, its just that i have a very low tolerance for social activities and other people, it really drains my energy. so i know what you mean when you say you want friends, its nice to have people around who care for you, but its also a pain when they start taking up alot of time and emotion from you. the best advice i can give, is that you shouldnt’ force yourself to be more social or force yourself to make friends. the people who you’ll enjoy being friends with the most will most likely be just like you, and you’ll meet up naturally.

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