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Tell her that. Not us. ;)

maybe she’s just as scared as you

Tell her all this. Everything you just said.

If she won’t talk about it or ignores it, then move on from her. No one is worth killing yourself over. I know it sucks to think about letting the person go, but it’s healthier then staying in a relationship that isn’t mutual.

But talk first.

Just talk to her. It’ll be awkward, but just do it. Ask her out. Some girls are a little bit on-guard about who they like. It’s sort of backwards-you know, easy to say “i love you” when you don’t love the person, hard to say it when you do. Or she’s frightened that you’ll back out again. Stick to your guns this time.

its best to get out exactly how u feel…and be certain of your own feelings first…

if you can’t say all of it to her face, at least write it to her or something. you don’t want to go without ever telling her.

Anonymous wrote:
Sometimes I feel like I’m willing to give everything up for her.

then just for a second, give up your dignity and ask her out.

yeah definitely tell her…its WAYYY easier to write it out..because u can read it over and not stumble and you can get down exactly what you want her to know…if you think she’s a bit scared…make the letter or talk a little suttle maybe? but definitely let her know!

Anonymous wrote:
Maybe she’s so guarded, and she has every reason to be that way, she doesn’t show it. But I always have to be the first person who says this stuff anymore, she won’t do it. It makes me stay in the same rut I’m in, because she could say it when I ask, but she won’t say it willingly…except one time.

If this makes any sense.

Actually it makes total sense. What you just said to me is “she wants me to make the first move.” the reason she’s acting guarded is because she’s not sure if you’ll actually do it. I mean, this is her heart on the line. If she assumes that you won’t do anything, then she’ll be wasting her love. But if she does, then she’d be assuming too much since you already backed down. So she’s on the fence. Defensive.

And all she wants is for you to make the first move. So make it.

And seriously, spit back all those words at her man!

Tell her what you just said…..if you are afraid to say it in person then write love note…..Yes it can seem cheesy but girls love these kinds of things.

pepsiluver1 wrote:
Tell her what you just said…..if you are afraid to say it in person then write love note…..Yes it can seem cheesy but girls love these kinds of things.

Actually, we’d much prefer being asked out in person. Because we understand how much more it takes. We love notes /after/ the fact, but writing to ask someone out is…not as bad as texting, not as good as telling.

Anonymous wrote:
I have a lot on the line myself, and I’m guarded also. It takes guts to make the first move, too, lol.

You. Love. Her. Take a deep breath and do it. Don’t antagonize over it. Every boy that asks a girl out has a lot on the line. But if their dads didn’t put a lot on the line to ask out their mom, they wouldn’t even be there.

can i ask you something? are you guys dating? friends? or you like each other and both of you know it? that could shed a light on how you should approach this. I’m a bit guarded and if i wasn’t dating someone or wasn’t at least close to them I would be VERY nervous to hear ‘i love u’ just like that…

Anonymous wrote:
Her dad is an ahole, I want to, in less cussing, beat him up.

/Every/ father will be a jerk to the boyfriend. It’s ingrained or something. Mostly to cause teenage girls stress. My father has raised an eyebrow and been like “I have a gun, a shovel, and 2 acres, and /no one/ will miss you” before.

Be like nike and just do it. It’s not hard (yes it is I know). You don’t have to meet the parents until like 6 months.

Gandhi. Peace, man, peace. And standing up for what you love.

ooohh i see.
Honestly then just tell her. Don’t just say the 3 words but say everything you said above…and obviously you mean it. My dad is like that with no interest in my life except his devotion to being a ahole and making things hard for me. I have always had trouble trusting people telling me that they love me. I didn’t realize how badly my situation with my dad affected me in my relationships. I hope this might give you some insight on why she might not be so responsive and a little scared. But seriously it sounds like you have a mature relationship and I say just tell her exactly how you feel (and after you let her know, maybe ask her how she feels though i say steer clear of pressuring her).

Just ask her out and all you troubles will go away. *waves hand magically*. Cause then she’ll be free to say it, you’ll know if she likes you, problems solved.

yeah as Indigo_Rain said..the gray waters really don’t help..ask her out so she knows where you stands and feels secure saying it.
I’ve done that before with the whole not saying anything back. I had to actually work on getting out “i really like you”. lol so she might be like me.

All the best! =)