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well first just importantly relax. when someone comes up to you stay relaxed. be yourself. you gotta. i know all of us once and a while pretend to be different and as hard as it is you just gotta be yourself. stay positive and stay calm. dont overthink the situation your in whether a job interview or just talking to friends.
good luck. i think that basically covers it! if you take it in and really try im sure youll get the hang of it.

coming out of your shyness is not fake ab! its just coming out and showing the world who you really are. just be yourself. talk to people as if you were alone and had nothing to loose. they ask “hey whats up” answer “oh blah blah blah how about you?” instead of just saying “not much” and ending the conversation.

It’s a funny one, I know. I never really went to school so I missed out on most of the socialising thing until I went to college at 16, and had all sorts of confidence issues. I was always ridiculously nervous and was only comfortable interacting with certain people in certain situations. I also never really knew how to act, and I’ve never really been a very masculine guy. It was very difficult, always self concious and often terrified that I might appear the wrong way or say the wrong thing, etc. maybe that is how you feel? I’m at uni now and I have completely changed, although it has taken me a couple of years to really find myself and work it all out. With me, I had a bit of a heavy ride, I was kinda thrown in at the deep end a fair bit, but what really changed me was having some pretty heavy and sometimes devastating/awakening/learning experiences.
In the end I learned simply not to care too much, just to be free and easy. I reckon I really found myself through reaching this outlook, and you can reach this by simply being what feels natural. There have been times when I have really embraced a quirky side to me; getting a sense of the ridiculous, having a laugh, learning to laugh at myself, and achieving whatever situation I want with enough conviction to pull it off.
I never imagined that the shy 18yr old drummer going to uni, away from home for the first time, would end up playing a tool song at a graded end of year performance, one handed with the other broken hand in a cast, whilst wearing a wedding dress combined with a shaved head and mohican, opening the set with a distorted version of ‘here comes the bride’. And I am a straight, shy, self conscious guy!
But nowadays I have learnt to deal with whatever situation I am in through whatever manner I see fit, that which comes naturally. And I believe this can be achieved by challenging yourself; putting yourself in the situation and not worrying about the outcome, just enjoying it and seeing if you can pull it off.
rant over. lol

Of course, you can always have a drink to loosen yourself up! as long as you are of age that is… lol