friends help: my boyfriends calls other girls ma and baby but he says they are just friends, what should i do? - Help.com

lucylala wrote:
yh i hav buh he jst wont listen to me so now he doesnt know that i am cheating on him, i love him buh he jst sooooooo anoying sometimes n now i am going out with 2 boys allready

whatt..thats prbobalys why??
he probably knows!!
most guys say ma thats all they know

You should both just go your own way..There is no fidelity.

its just we been to together for a while i mean guys me be attention i dont give it back and hes calls girls baby ma cutie and stuff and i dont so i feel betrayed in a way

i think i have misunderstood somewhere along the line here. is everyone calling him a cheater because he calls other girls nicknames? because if thats the case thats insanely over-reactive.

personally, i always call girls by nicknames, whether they are close friends or people i’ve only known a short time. when i am in relationships, my other half does this also. i have other female friends and she has other male friends. i really don’t see a problem with it. in the slightest.

at the end of the day, if you don’t trust your parter enough to let him talk to other girls affectionately then you have to question whether you should be in a relationship at all; not because of his nicknames but your lack of trust.

no my boyfriend does it not calling him one, but guys would get just as mad if their girlfriends were calling other guys baby and boo and stuff i trust him its the girls i cant though

no, some guys would get mad. these are jealous possessive guys. and they are just as bad as jealous possessive girls (i am not calling you this :))

and this whole, i trust him but not the girls. well…that doesn’t really work. they aren’t going to knock him unconscious and have their way with him. if they try anything with him then he is a perfectly capable adult and should say no.

like i said above, if you don’t think he will say no, then the issue is with the trust of him, not the names he calls people :)

yahh i understand but its not only that he blows me off for his friends and he isnt just calling random girl this is exs and his first so yahh it kinda effects you deeply i mean i never cheated on a guy before, always been cheated onn and it scares me cause i really like this guy :\

ok, i do sympathise. i realise i am being a little blunt. it is a difficult situation to be in. nobody likes to feel second best.

i don’t know how often you two hang out, whether its like all the time or once a week. i would suggest that, as much as you love his company, every guy loves a chance to hang out with his mates. however, i agree with you that you should come ‘first’ in a way. it depends on how often you are being blown off, and how serious you are (how long you’ve been together, etc) i don’t even know how old you are so its very difficult to judge. i would estimate that a relationship about a month/2 months old between two teenagers, they should be seeing each other about 3/4 times a week. 5 on good weeks, 2 or busy weeks. (thats just an estimation). if it is 2 or less regulaly then that’s when an issue could arise.

the ex’s thing doesn’t really matter (in my eyes). my ex is now my bestest buddy in the whole world, we have been friends for a very long time. but we feel no attraction for each other. we are friends and i would never let this interfere with a relationship.

yah same my ex his my bestfriend but he still has deep feelings for me and it doesnt help that him and my boyfriend are brothers like i get jealous easily so yahh i see where your coming from plus we live a littles away so we kinda dont really see each other well we do its complicated at the moment cause family issues i just want him to talk to me more i mean i love him to deff and i cant get over the fact with him over other girls same with me and guys but i dont talk to him and he does i mean if i talked back to the guys would defff make me a hipocreatttt lol srry horrible speller i guess i just gotta lighten up about this

lol well i would say, don’t worry about the name calling thing, BUT,

when you said “I just want him to talk to me more” thats where i think the issue is. nothing else. And on that point i agree with you. if your partner is not talking to you you have a right to be upset, because that is what is leading to your insecurities. that is the one thing i personally think you should talk to your partner about. not in a panicky way. just calmly have an adult conversaion about how the lack of communication makes you feel. he should be able to have a conversation with you about this perfectly fine.

RE: your “lighten up” statement. i kinda agree and disagree. you should never surpress what you are feeling, because if you are feeling it is i obviously important to you. however, i think in this case you need to realise that (imo) it is perhaps worrying over nothing. you don’t want to scare your bf off by ‘controlling him’.

this is all just my opinion :) you can follow whatever route you want to. but my suggestion would be talk about the communication thing. this should make you feel much more secure :)

haha thnks alot thats helps plus im nothing like the controling type just wanna make sure hes mine

yeah, i don’t think you’re the controlling type :) he’s the only person that can answer that question for you. good luck :)

thnks alot

if you are with two other guys, then wtf? how can you be mad about him calling other people ‘ma’ and ‘baby’!
he should equal your actions and sleep with all these other ‘ma’ and ‘babys’!
what goes around comes around!
why don’t people understand that?!

yah but hes suppose to be loyal to me as my boyfriend im not just a piece of paper he can write all over

hes supposed to be loyal to you, but you don’t have to be loyal to him?

i havent done anything to him i dnt call guys anythings and i talk to my exs but i dont call them stuff and he does so yahh

didn’t you say that you have two other guys?
if i’m wrong then i’m sorry, because my response would have been completely different.
but up top, i thought thats what i read…?

you too should go your separate ways.

den yo ***** is trying to find a way to get you mad