Love help: Let’s skip the details that tie me to this lady, alright? - Help.com

Can’t help you out on this one, my friend. I’m in the same boat.

I’m so sorry. It must feel absolutely terrible. I don’t quite know you, so I don’t know what to say, really. But think about this; What would be more painful? Keep waiting, or simply.. letting go?

If you really, truly think she won’t return your feelings, I think letting go would be the best option. If I were in this situation, it would be very very hard for me to let go, but it’s the course I would choose. Waiting for someone I know would never love me back would be excruciating. But, as I said, I don’t know you, so I can’t truly help you. I’m sorry I can’t be of much help. These are just my thoughts…

I think what you need to do is make sure you know what she wants. You can’t go forward with anything without knowing absolutely what she wants. If she tells you she misses you, yes that is a sign she misses what you two used to have, but you can’t base your actions on those words. Give it time my friend. Keep coming back here to talk, it really helps. I know you feel like a wreck now dude, I went through the samething. I lost 20 pounds last month because of my break up. Didn’t eat, didn’t sleep, just went to work, came home and cried. Chin up dude, you can keep it under control. Don’t let those words consume your mind. Take it with a grain of salt, but obviously don’t forget.

Haha thanks. I think she’s just really going through something serious right now. She might not be in the right mental state even for a serious relationship. Give her some time to try to get over her grievences and realize that once someone is gone in that manner, nothing can bring them back. She’ll come to and realize that she’ll need to move on with her life eventually, I have faith in humanity.

Take some time for yourself too. Realize that she’s moving through some thick @ss s.h.!.t. and try to keep her in your thoughts, but like I said don’t get consumed. Let her know every now and then that you’re still there, willing to be her friend if she just needs someone to talk to. I think eventually if you ease yourself back into her life slowly, she’ll realize what a great guy you are and it’ll help her move on to bigger and better things, with you, maybe, or with other things. Life’s all a game of chance.