Love help: i love him, but is it too soon?

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i love him, but is it too soon?

i’ve been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month, though we were unofficially together for a month before that. we were both in previous relationships which ended with us being cheated on, which is what initially bought us together. i’m at the stage where i can honestly say that i love him. it’s always on the tip of my tongue but i never can quite say it; i don’t want him to think i’m rushing it or saying it too soon/when i don’t mean it. plus, because he’s been messed about in the past, i would hate for him to feel too pressured or anything like that.
help? should i wait? or say what i feel?

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (11 minutes after post)

This is a tough one!

I can’t say much but I think you should wait for him to say “I Love You” first. That way you KNOW he’s ready to hear it from you.

I had a friend who’s boyfriend was in a situation like this and as soon as he said “I love you” she lost interest. (Maybe cause they were only dating for 2 weeks but…:P)

Good luck! Tread softly!

And there are many ways to show your love besides saying it. Try getting your message across without words. If you do it right you can really strengthen a relationship.

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1 year, 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

If you asking this question then it is too soon. when you are in love with someone and that someone loves you back equally then you will know. Action speak louder than words. Love is the continual act of unconditionally putting the needs of others before your own and It goes both ways though. You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with - not just someone to make love to. Realize that love is a feeling that only we can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love. If you find someone who understands and endures the hardships, enjoys the good times to the fullest, then you will know. Time will tell. It is a lifetime of learning, teaching and caring for one another.

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1 year, 3 months ago (4 hours, 50 minutes after post)

i’m 23 years old and i can honestly say i’ve only fallen i love once. I knew him for two weeks and i told him…(he loves me too)…ironically his heart had been broken too. tell him…i say dont even question it. the feelings in you are spontaneous and that just how you should express yourself…you find him cute tell him…make him feel loved. why keep something so beautiful to yourself.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (20 hours, 17 minutes after post)

well why do you think its to soon love comes and goes you never who might be the right one take time and think do u love dis person or your scare that soon might mean that its going to end soon

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