dating help: When asking someone out on a date, is it better to say “would you like to get lunch sometime? - Help.com

Yea something like that would be great. Because going up and saying “wanna go on a date with me” sounds awkward lol

hmm…Don’t know a whole lot about this subject, but I would think it might be best to test the waters with “would you like to get lunch sometime”, and then if there is a good response, start working on setting up a time.

How about, “Have you ever been to Luigi’s? Would you like to check it out this week sometime, maybe for lunch?”

JoJo wrote:
hmm…Don’t know a whole lot about this subject, but I would think it might be best to test the waters with “would you like to get lunch sometime”, and then if there is a good response, start working on setting up a time.

you tok the words right from my mouth… Give ‘em back >=( lol jusk kidding

“Would you like to get lunch sometime” sounds a bit meek to me. It sounds just the same as saying, “Would you consider going out on a date with me?” Personally I think it’s better and more casual if you use the Luigi approach (see above). :)

Florie wrote:
How about, “Have you ever been to Luigi’s? Would you like to check it out this week sometime, maybe for lunch?”

Luigi’s…. THAT’S IT THANK YOU FLORIE!!!! (im looking for a new username and it helped me come up with one! =D

Oops! I totally did not mean to steal your words Squish…here, I’ll return them:

hmm…Don’t know a whole lot about this subject, but I would think it might be best to test the waters with “would you like to get lunch sometime”, and then if there is a good response, start working on setting up a time.

There, now they are yours again

You’re welcome!! :)

i like giving the time right away - that way the person is able to say - no i am busy on monday instead of NO! its an easier let down if there is going to be one. also, by leaving it vague makes you have to go through more awkwardness to set it up. i think you should just come right about say whats on your mind and go from there.

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yeah! :)

this is just my experience, but—-when ever i am vague, it seems to never work out. when ever i am specific on the date/time, it seems to work out more. usually i ask something like this: “what are you doing on monday?” then i let them tell me what they are doing. then i say, “well would you have time to go get lunch with me?” sure that is rather specific, and allows for more of a let down b/c that kind of question set them up for a blatant “NO”, and if you ask “would you like to get lunch with me SOMETIME” the answer is almost always yes, b/c sometime could be anytime ever. so while being specific sets them up for a specific answer, it still works more for me. that’s it.

I don’t think you should ask her what she’s doing on Monday, because it’s really none of your business, know what I mean? I think if she is willing to go “sometime this week,” then you can let her pick the day. That way she won’t feel swamped and overpowered. :) Just a woman’s viewpoint.

well, yeah, i mean Florie is a woman, so she is probably right. that makes sense that being specific is rather overbearing, and i feel like that often when i ask. but like i said, it never seems to workout with me when i am vague. so if girls like the questions to be vague, why does it rarely work out for me? i kind of thought females wanted the fella to kind of take control. like i would be expected to pick the restaurant and to drive and stuff. you know? maybe i am just crazy. but Florie, you are probably right.

No no, I think you’re partly right, but seems to me if he offered a range of times (”this week?”) then they could pick the day together. And yes, I would expect him to drive and to pay and be generally chivalrous. :)

My main point is that just saying “sometime” gives me the heeby-jeebies, the same as when this man once asked me “Would you ever go out on a date with me?” I hate “dates.” I’d rather just do something, preferable something spontaneous.

yeah, spontaneity works alot for me too. and being spontaneous isn’t being vague. just the other day, this girl was coming over to hang out, that is all we had “planned” but all of a sudden i just said, hey while you are over wanna go see a movie. she agreed. it was rather spontaneous, while still being a rather cliche date. and yes i drove and paid and was chivalrous. it is good to know women really appreciate that, Florie. from me it is all genuine, like i genuinely enjoy doing those things.

It just makes everything much nicer, and it’s a little game, or dance I suppose but I still like it. It makes things work. :)