girl help: It always seems like I get the most compliments from guys when I DON’T look my best. - Help.com

One of my guy freiends says he likes it when girls try not to hide how beautiful they already are with make up.

lol It’s the same for me.
I also get carded when I’m looking a mess and I’m 44!
Unkempt must be a youthful look ;)

i am a guy, and i love it, when girls don’t dress up or put makeup on. it is very attractive to me. you want to know why - b/c it feels like you don’t have a front up. with all your make up on and dressy clothes, it feels to me like you have a mask on and are trying to impress someone. i don’t want the girl i am interested in to be someone other than their true self. and i think not wearing makeup says alot about the woman, like she is secure in her self image, which is important to me. and trust me, you definitely look your best when are not TRYING to look like something else.

Squish wrote:
One of my guy friends says he likes it when girls try not to hide how beautiful they already are with make up.

amen, i totally agree.

My boyfriend likes it better when I have no make-up on. Only, for me, it’s more a confidence thing… I like looking good to myself, as well as others. I don’t think I’m insecure.

The ‘messy/bedhead’ look has been ‘in’ for a while now too.

Just be happy that you look awesome without making any effort! :)

this is probably one of the best questions that i have read here in a while. most of my friends don’t ever talk about this stuff, and i know it happens (ie: getting compliments when you aren’t looking “your best”)

Oh Yes.

People call me hot on MSN when I haven’t even really met them.

Some guy said he LOVED me and would do anything for me.

=/

That was freaky.
I get compliments from guys all the time.
Haha.
Not that much in person though… Im kinda shy.

Haha. the only makeup I wear is eyeliner and sometimes eyeshadow.

greatsaints wrote:
i am a guy, and i love it, when girls don’t dress up or put makeup on. it is very attractive to me. you want to know why - b/c it feels like you don’t have a front up. with all your make up on and dressy clothes, it feels to me like you have a mask on and are trying to impress someone. i don’t want the girl i am interested in to be someone other than their true self. and i think not wearing makeup says alot about the woman, like she is secure in her self image, which is important to me. and trust me, you definitely look your best when are not TRYING to look like something else.

Squish wrote:
One of my guy friends says he likes it when girls try not to hide how beautiful they already are with make up.

amen, i totally agree.

i have noticed when i put less effort into my appearance i get treated with respect more, but when i do its likei get less of it. :s can u explain this more?

I don’t really wear make up, and when I do, it’s just a bit of eyeliner. I don’t dress up either, and people are always complimenting me.

I think with a lot of make up on, it makes it look like you have something to hide.

Make-up *is* a mask, for me anyway. My confidence is boosted way up when I wear it. And I do hide behind it. If I could walk around with a real mask all day I would :P
When I was a kid and got to dress up for Halloween at school, I always chose to wear a mask, and wished I could wear it every day, I loved the feeling of being hidden. It felt safe.
I suspect it might be the same with men that grow their facial hair…

Spideyyx3 wrote:
I don’t really wear make up, and when I do, it’s just a bit of eyeliner. I don’t dress up either, and people are always complimenting me.I think with a lot of make up on, it makes it look like you have something to hide.

yeah i agree, it does make you look like you have something to hide, but it is kind of different. it is hard to explain. to me i guess, wearing makeup, even if you think you are only impressing yourself, kind of just seems like you are trying to fit into society. like, makeup is the norm, so you want to wear b/c the world has tricked you into thinking you have to have to look “good”.

also, i genuinely think a clean face is beautiful. all girls look wonderful without marks or “paint” intended to highlight their checks, or their eye color, or make you look more tan. the best looking face is your natural one. i think most guys agree.

i think showing your blemishes or whatever you consider a fault, or whatever girls think they need to cover up with makeup, shows that you are a human. those are what make you, you. with makeup on, you just blend in with all the other girls. i don’t think guys want someone who is trying to convince them/ trick them into thinking they have a perfect appearance (that is how it is for me). it makes you a real human being without makeup and fancy clothes.

well anyone want to say anything else, it seems like i am the only guy posting on this. that is bad, cuz you girls are getting an very one-sided opinion. i am about to hang up the phone. i think i have said my fill, unless someone else has another specific question about how guys feel. i’ll get on later. plus no one is answering my question. but no big deal.

Chameleon wrote:
I suspect it might be the same with men that grow their facial hair…

hmm… I’ll look into this :P

greatsaints wrote:
well anyone want to say anything else, it seems like i am the only guy posting on this. that is bad, cuz you girls are getting an very one-sided opinion. i am about to hang up the phone. i think i have said my fill, unless someone else has another specific question about how guys feel. i’ll get on later. plus no one is answering my question. but no big deal.

What was your question? I don’t see one…but I’m sleep deprived :P

I only wear makeup when I go out in public for an apointment or something on my calendar. At home on my ranch I like to wash my face 3 or 4 times a day. When I’m working (87F in the shade) I like to keep clean, makeup feels dirty. If I have to run to Home Depot for supplies I get the most looks in my work clothes.

Hurray for no makeup!!! ^^

Beautiful’s beautiful, makeup or no makeup

I once heard my husband tell a friend “she had 102 temperature and was in bed for days, her hair was a wreck and she looked beautiful”!. Awwwww, huh?

well take their compliments to heart i personally don’t like a woman with alot of makeup at all. do wht you want but it sounds like you look better to men when you are dressed casual

As a man I’m not physically attracted to a woman with makeup it make them look weird/fake. I’m not against makeup, but women are so much prettier without it. Once in a blue moon my girlfriend will wear it for a special occasion. My feeling is that if a woman wears makeup you shouldn’t be able to know that she is, just that something looks special about her. I Knew a woman who had beautiful eyes and it wasn’t until after a month of working with her that I discovered that she used mascara. It was the only makeup she wore and she was beautiful. Be yourself and if you like to wear makeup, wear it because you do, not to improve your look.

“looking your best” is relative the type of guys who like barbie dolls covered in makeup are usually more interested in impressing their friends but guys who like you more natural are actually looking at you and deciding they find you attractive. remember the secret to make up is making it look like it’s not there….

This is a nice post :)