friends help: I am very self conscious, and insecure about myself. - Help.com

well girl what do you want advice wise then? if you are insecure then change how you look. you are in control! only you can lose the weight, only you can like you for you…
try getting a job or walking your dog or all those other things you don’t try and see what results you get….

also you said “I rarely dress or get my hair done”
i recommend dressing!
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you have nothing to lose do you? you already dont like how things are, how much worse can it possibly get? and if it does, you can clearly endure it because you have endured life up to this point. talk to people you are comfortable with, even if its a relative, and go do stuff with them so that you will be comfortable in public. i sort of have the same problem, but not to the extent that you do….

p.s. i used to be the same way, but i hated not being active! life is soooo much fun when you participate!! jump in!!! i promise you will love the results!!

Worrying is a bad habit, you need to overcome it like any other bad habit. Try to modify the factors under your control, that is the only thing you can do. From http://mshn.org/worry.html

I moved to a different city and had very similar issues. I am still self-conscious about my weight and am still trying to make friends here and I’m bloody 25!. I found the best way to connect is to join something…a club in school or outside even. Whatever you are interested in…yearbook, asian club, a musical instrument, TV production (my fave), dance (they have like salsa or swing where you can be a beginner), beta club (volunteering is really a lot of fun), drama club, etc. I was NEVER athletic, but I made so many friends in high school because I was in like 5 clubs by my senior year. You have to work alongside the other members so you end up making friends. And, you don’t have to be super outgoing…the work the club requires will give you something to converse about…then you can ease into other types of convo =)

Also, try getting a job. I know it’s not the most luxurious place to work, but when I was 16 I worked at McDonalds. Almost everyone that worked there went to my high school and I did not know any of them when I started. Within a few weeks I made new friends without even trying. They began talking to me when I worked there since I was new. Of course pick your own place to work, but try something geared towards people in your school.

I say be happy with your body. Don’t buy into this stick thin image pushed in our faces. I am by no means skinny yet people like me for me and they will like you for you. Just give it time. Exercising is a great thing to help you in other ways. It not only raises your energy level, but the released chemicals in your body actually make you happy. This happiness will increase your self-confidence (weight loss or no weight loss) and you will see how much more open you can be. Trust me, I know! Consider walking your dog or going for a run or bike ride around your block. Do it daily if you can. Try to find someone to join you (a parent, neighbor, friend). Jogging or ridding your bike around with someone can be a lot of fun.

Also, as impossible as this sounds, don’t fret about guys. I was probably the most boy crazy girl in my whole school. Yet they were just a bit too early =(
By the time I was interested in guys, no one was interested in me. It was hard. I never got asked out after my freshmen year and yes, older guys were into me just like you but that doesn’t quite work at 16.

Well, then I hit college. Still the same weight, still the same me and EVERYTHING was different. It was weird. I actually was turning guys AWAY because there were so many interested. It sounds far away and crazy, but trust me everything is different outside of high school. Give it time. Oh and I went to a normal 4yr state school, not a community college or anything so it might be different there. Just be yourself (I always was) and I realized that the type of guys that gave me attention were the type of guys I actually would consider dating. They were sweet and not cocky.

Hope that helps! =)

dont worry, it could lead to stress. Don’t eat spicy, bitter, and astringent foods. Don’t eat meals when stressed, angry, or anxious (avoid nervous eating) and avoid late night foods. Also take the correct amount of nutrition. http://www.askaquery.com/question/How…

well, who cares what you look like, be proud of who you are and dont let it put you down, get out more, go to college, theres a world out there waiting for another girl so get out there

I understand the feelings that you are describing, and what is worse, is the more you avoid the things you fear, the bigger the fear gets. There is something called “opposite action”, and it means that if you want to run away from something then you take the opposite action and run toward it. It is useful for correcting ‘irrational’ fears and also breaking patterns that are no longer useful. However, use common sense, if the fear is rational (a bear is coming toward you!) then it is best to trust your survival instincts and run. You also may benefit from therapy if it is available to you, someone to talk to that can help you get in touch with your Self (your feelings, sensations, thoughts, values, and a deeper sense of who you are)…currently it seems like you are experiencing life from the outside in, vs. the inside out. (Don’t worry, it is normal for your age, and stage of development). Also, it may be helpful to exhale when you notice that you are worried about other peoples judgments, etc….as you walk past them, practice focusing on breathing out ( a slow, long breath) , then you are expanding yourself instead of taking in other people’s energy. And finally, LOVE yourself! No matter how much love you get from others, if you don’t have it for yourself, it will never bring lasting peace and happiness. Hope this helps.