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I think i don’t love my boyfriend anymore.
Thing is, he is a seafarer and communicating with him is really hard since he’s always busy. I fell out of love maybe because i don’t like long distance relationships. But he told me before that he’d probably commit suicide if we’d break up. What should i do?
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Just tell him the truth that you don’t love him any more nicely or write a letter something like that and move on.
We cannot control the decisions, emotions and existence of others, we can only be true to our soul and self … you know your answer, you feel it more then thinking about it that leads nowhere .. just go with your inner feeling I am sure you would discover where it would lead …
I don’t think love is something you simply “fall out of”. But if it is the case you don’t feel the same for him anymore, you need to let him go. Dragging him on like that is heartless. I had someone drag me around like that, and I’m telling you don’t do it to him. No matter what he tells you. Let him go.
well you cant be with a guy that you dont love ……talk to him ….make him understand that theirs other girls ….. that by forcing you to stay with him….. wont be for the better ………
You have a responsibility to yourself to do what you know is right. If you know this relationship isn’t working for you, then you need to get out of it.
i have the same problem as u i dont thing i lov ehim any more. i want to finish with him but dont no how with out hurting him and making it difficult as we was once gd friends and if i finshed him id like 2 be friends again but i dont think hwould so i dont no what 2 do its so confussing. i no how u feel.
I had that problem with a guy once, and felt the same way about it as you do. If he thinks that resorting to emotional blackmail is the way to keep u, then he clearly doesn’t care too much about how this comment might have effected u, or ur decision to move on. If he thinks that this is an okay way to hold u back,and trap u like that, then find someone better. If he really loved u, he would want u to move on if u felt like u need to (even if he would be inevitably hurt).when he said “if we break up” he meant “if YOU break up”.He probably said it so that u don’t ditch him and hurt his pride. He’s taking advantage of ur good nature.When I eventually dumped my ex, he went around on a kiss-and-tell offensive, and revealed details of our personal life to people we knew.I was shocked because I thought he loved me, he was always so sweet, i didnt know that he was capable of something like that.
I wouldn’t threat over it. It was most likely an over-exageration, he probably didn’t literally mean it (guys do that sometimes when they feel romantic). And if he did mean it (very very unlikely) and he kills himself (which I strongly doubt), would u want to be with a psycho like that anyway??? and NEVER let any guy put u under pressure like that AGAIN…anyone who does that does not really care about you…..
i have a bf ryt now but i dont love him anymore…i dont know how cn i xplain 2 him because he told me that he cannot live without me…nd if i break with him he going to die…i love him as a friend only…tnx a lot…pls.response..
i am also having the same problem! its not that i simply dont click with him. jus a few weeks ago i was madly in love with him. and at one time i thought i could never be happier. so i konw it is there. it has just gone away some. sounds so imature but i just really miss the feeling of loving him. i need help! how do i gain those feelings back again.
There was a boy in my life,telling me the same and he looked very serious when saying so.But when we faced some issues in our way to marry,i told him to let’s find a solution maybe in 1 or 2 years it would be possible,but this suicider! couldnt wait more than 3 months then told me better to get seperated,now after 7 years from that love story i am still unmarried and feel heart-broken while he has a 5-year-old sun!!!!don’t make the same mistake i did my friend,don’t take men serious please…
tell him that you arent in love with him anymore, but tell him you don’t want him to commit suicide. get him help if he still insits on commiting suicide.
not body die…..its ******** compltetly emotional blackmail.leave him now
right now i am feeling this way about my boyfriend. i think that he is changing and i just wanna be with him, but i dont know if i can. i dont feel as though i love him anymore, and i just might want to be friends. i can honestly say that i know we are truly in love, but i just can not take this ANYMORE. it is way too much for me to handle and has me stressed out all the time. i want to love him more than anything i have ever wanted, but i can not force myself and i do not want either one of us to be hurt in the long run.
the same thing is happening between my boyfriend and me .. i felt like i was in love with him a few weeks ago i never felt happier, and he said he loved me and i’m his reason to live, and i thought i loved him too cause we talked about all sorts of things about growing up living together and all those things and he said i’m his first and his last, but i just don’t feel the same way anymore i just love him as a friend but i don’t know how to tell him without hurting him and i don’t wanna lose him as one of my best friends either, what should i do?
Men will tell u anything 2 get what they want i should kno ive experienced it in just the only 2 relations i had. The 1st 1 i loved 2 much and i will never know why and he treated like **** he ignored my calls didnt let me see him only like once a month after i was in love with him he used and abused me sexually forcing himself on to me when i told him no more than four times he took money from me which he didnt pay bck then said all i care aou is money oz i wouldnt pay £900 for him towards going 2 USA but coz i loved him i let him get away with it. I was wit him on and off 4 about 2yrs and although we remain friends he thinks friends means what he wants when he wants he has emotionally and physically abusd me he is a manipulator, a so called man who loved me he just lied 2 get his own way and they tell u all kinds of crap like i cant live without i want 2 b with you foever and they have no intentions the other day heb tried 2 kiss me i felt sick i cant stand him 2 even kiss me no more but i can b great friends wih him i just dont like him like that hes hurt me 2 much. The second guy was really nice lovely guy but i left him coz i wasnt sure about the relatonship i had my doubts so he told me i love you i cant live without you u r my soul my love. Then i call this guy coz i was worried he told me he was going 2 attempt 2 take hi life he told me ive stabbed myself im in hospital i woz in a rite state wen he told me this i phoned the hospital and guess wot he has never been in hospital. You think you know and trust someone and they just play games to get their way and now this man is married and he still tells me he loves me and wants to see me i was with this man for over a year
so i wasted 3yr of my life with 2 men who had no intentions to be with me andi tell you i dont think i can gt close to anyone again ive been made a fool of and i feel so stupid.
With men they go to extremes they lie about anything and everything they will tell you anything to get attention so just be careful and dont take what they say to much to heart or you will end up in a mess like i did
If you dont love him anymore you hae to tell him its not fairto keep it from him it might hurt at fist but least he can start to try to move on the longeryou drag it ot th harder it will get for him
i say to my bf icant love u more because he said sorry for 2years but repeated everything that i hated it,,so i hate him,,i suffured alot teaching him to be logical,,and life is about trust,,! im tired,,hurt,,and icant love him anymore,,im more hating him everytime i think about our 2years passed like this,,with same repeated mistakes from him,,and saying sorry,,even now! he never leaves!
I’m feeling the same way, I thought I was in love with my boyfriend, or that I could love him forever. He made me feel like I’ve never felt before, and this was just a couple days ago. Then all the feelings just went away. I don’t know what to think. I remember thinking, no matter what happens I want to be with him. But those love feelings just disappeared and I don’t know what to think anymore. it’s weird
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