friends help: I need a pep talk and a hell of a good one - Help.com

Lucky, you get to be lazy with an excuse, i would take advantage of the situation

You know how as a parent you’re always wishing how you knew how to do something wonderful for your children, especially when they’re going through a really hard time and you can’t do anything to stop whatever is hurting them? Your injury gives you a window to help your daughter. Maybe you and she aren’t going through the same exact thing, but I’m sure you feared the possibility of injury or death long before you were injured, and now she is living in fear for her sight knowing that she’s losing. Somehow you have been giving this incredible opportunity to be able to know what she’s going to go through so that you can help her and have a stronger bond with you as each of you battles you have to go through things that no one else you know has experienced. You have been blessed with insight to her pain first hand, which few parents ever have. These times of pain and heartache are your education to helping her better.

I hope this helps, even if it’s just a little.

that bites. im not very good with words, so i wont try, but read chicken soup for the soul. it helps so much, with anything.

It’s not your fault you’re in a wheelchair. And you probably try really hard to be the best father possible. Legs aren’t required for that, just a good heart. Same goes for being a good friend.

It does suck major **** that you can’t walk anymore. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that its not as bad as all that.
I would hate watching people do all the things i can’t do anymore too.
But there are things you still can do. You are still here. You are still on this planet, with your family. A family that clearly needs you, and you can still be there for them even if you can’t walk.
of course this will cause strain on you, and the people around you, simply because they care about you…but only at first. eventually things will even out and will be better i promise you, even thought it may seem that ‘eventually’ is too long.
maybe you should talk to your oldest as it is hitting her so hard and be open with her.
Just remember that you don’t have to go through everything by yourself. Obviously there are people around you that love and care about you. Lean on eachother. Sure things may be hard now but you can pull through it.
course you’re not who you used to be before whatever happened to you happened, but that doesn’t have to always be a horrible thing

dhanged my mind, i will try-if you feel like you cant do stuff because you are in a wheelchair, then you shouldnt. lack of legs doesnt chaange who you are in the slightest, just limits you a little.

well the fact that it breaks your heart to see your children upset, is a sign that you are being the best father you can. Children are always asking for things, but I found that just knowing that someone cares is the best love you can recieve. Explain to them that while you cant do some things, you can experience new things with them. As for your friends, dont feel bad about not being able to play certain sports with them. I’m assuming that you are new to this injury? Obviously you miss some of the things that you used to do and thats understandable. But, I think you need to realize that you are here, and you have the gift of life, why waste it feeling sorry for yourself. Everyone has to overcome hurdles at one point in their life, it just depends on what you put in replacement to all of the things you could do before. I wish you the best of luck, and the happiest life with your children.