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Is it New Orleans you live in?

You have had a pretty miserable time of it. What is the problem with the in-laws?

I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through. I’ve been through grief, and I once had to pick up the pieces after a hurricane, but not at the same time. Are there any counseling services available to you?

And of course, people here will be your friend and provide you advice, a place to vent and a way to make a difference. If nothing else, to commiserate.

Oh dear - somehow you are all going to have to get over this survivor guilt thing. Facts are that people who really do commit suicide generally tell no-one and make sure they leave nothing to chance. You didnt blink and miss something this was no cry for help that is why you didnt see it coming.

The advert must have dredged up a lot of emotions (suprised they asked you - given the circumstances - or didnt they know?). The other thing you must keep in mind is that this is all a bit raw - time does do all that stuff they say - it very slowly takes away that searing pain you get every time your mind wanders back to this. But dont be fooled a lot of you recovering from this is in your own hands.

I’m tempted to suggest you find a way to celebrate his life - maybe a scholarship for a youngster who wants to follow into the trade as a Mason. Dont leave things as they are Andrea - there is a way around all this. Things wont be the same again but you can certainly make sure that no more lives are wasted if you start building bridges now - Mas

I understand the flooding thing. I went through Katrina. I understand how much you lose. Are you getting any help financially from FEMA? What about any charities or the RedCross? Did you have flood insurance? Where are you staying now? I can tell you recovering from a natural diaster is a process for both you and your town. It will take time. Some things that were damaged may be able to be saved. Have you started to write an inventory of what you have lost? That helps later with taxes, FEMA and insurance. Hang in there and take it one moment at a time.
Sorry about the death of your brother in law. My deepest sypathies. Your company should have asked someone else to do the suicide prevention poster. That was terrible. I can see why you say it was a slap in the face. You all have to go throughthe stages of grief. There is alot of hurt, guilt and confusion when someone does especially when they take their own life. There should be a support group around. Red Cross may know one that is open in your area now since I know you all have limited esources now. Check the hospital or chruchs they may have some. i think it may help. Also, and I how you don’t get mad at me for suggesting this,the suicide hotline maybe able to help with some resources. Are help to talk to someone who has dealt with what you are going through.

Andrea, my brother-in-law committed suicide two months ago. Again, there was really no warning. But he was depressed about a number of things. His car hit a tree and he’d wrecked another car, just two months before that, and I think he just didn’t want to deal with another crisis. His wife divorced him after carrying on an affair with his pastor, and she got custody of the kids. So he lost his marriage, his kids, and his church, and was about to lose his home–which he built with his own hands–to his rapacious ex-wife. He had remarried but the new wife could only do so much. It was a bad decision on his part, but we have to remember that people who kill themselves are NOT the men or women they WERE. Life had beaten them down, and they just didn’t want to deal with the pain any more. By the way, the pastor who destroyed their marriage also committed suicide. You could say that this Baptist pastor (I like to call a spade a spade) killed two people. Sorry to digress, but you need to know that you couldn’t have prevented this tragedy. All you can do now is pray for the soul of your brother-in-law and help the family recover. You got a double-whammy with the flood. But I want you to stay strong and to really support your husband. Things like this affect men much more than you would think. YOUR marriage is undergoing a strain right now, so it’s really important to nurture each other. You will have a new home in time. What you want to ensure is that your FAMILY stays intact at this time. Will pray for you and want you to know that we are all rooting for you!

Man, that’s deep . . . I’d say find the time to be ur self and find a way to keep the smile really.

Just checking to see how you are today? Mas

*** BIG HUG ***

yea i live in austin we got hit pretty bad my basement is still getting fixed up