Ouch, yeah, I have social anxiety too. Sometimes it can get bad and I just hang-out to the side the whole time. Just breathe, lol. I too have a hard time with that kind of stuff. This summer I went to camp and my group was very. . .open about stuff.
Anywho, I tried to chat a bit and it helped, though I still hung to the side. Sry I can’t help you much more, I may need to read other posts here to figure it out myself. Teehee.
Just try to stay relaxed and if you start to feel really anxious or short of breath, just think about happy things! ^.^
good luck,
Ashley
i have social anxiety too…my meds help a lot, but sometimes i count or sing to myself…Helps me not pay so much attention to everything that’s goin on around me
im gunna feel like a loser, not tlkn to anyone.
Well I have a friend that has social anxiety and something that helped her, was going into a situation she knew she’d be uncomfortable with and have a goal in mind. So say we went to a concert where there was a lot of downtime, her goal would be to meet one new person. So perhaps going into orientation tomorrow, dead set on making at least one new friend will help you. Don’t be too over eager or anything :) just casually ask the person sitting beside you where he/she is from, was this their first choice, what made them pick this school…from there just carry on the conversation.
undeveloped wrote:
im gunna feel like a loser, not tlkn to anyone.
Well, it’s just orientation, not like you are going out for most popular. Maybe try chatting with one or two poeple. You know, to get you started and to help your self-esteem without forcing but so much onto yourself.
Red_Sky wrote:
Well I have a friend that has social anxiety and something that helped her, was going into a situation she knew she’d be uncomfortable with and have a goal in mind. So say we went to a concert where there was a lot of downtime, her goal would be to meet one new person. So perhaps going into orientation tomorrow, dead set on making at least one new friend will help you. Don’t be too over eager or anything :) just casually ask the person sitting beside you where he/she is from, was this their first choice, what made them pick this school…from there just carry on the conversation.
i think i’ma try this sometime
its not an orientation. but its somethin like it. i dont exactly kno what it is. i most likely wont know anyone there.
can u take someone wit u, or is it jus for students. Maybe u can take someone so u won’t be alone
its like a tour to see where our classes are. and we get our id cards, n idk what else we are doin. but i dont wanna take someone and it looks like im not responsible or reliable. if i take someone, wont it seem like i need someone to help me. and its at 9 in the mornin. barely any of my friends are up then
then u should try Red’s advice
Red_Sky wrote:
Well I have a friend that has social anxiety and something that helped her, was going into a situation she knew she’d be uncomfortable with and have a goal in mind. So say we went to a concert where there was a lot of downtime, her goal would be to meet one new person. So perhaps going into orientation tomorrow, dead set on making at least one new friend will help you. Don’t be too over eager or anything :) just casually ask the person sitting beside you where he/she is from, was this their first choice, what made them pick this school…from there just carry on the conversation.
i am
im gunna try that. but i doubt i will succeed in it.
No! do it without a doubt in your mind that you WILL succeed
Then don’t think that way. Seriously every single person in there is going to be what a loser they are because they don’t have a friend. It’s college, isn’t this where we’re supposed to be breaking down some of those insecurities and doubts that held us back in high school? Where something you know you look hot in, or at least makes you like to look at yourself, practice your introductions, and smile. Getting people to smile back at you, can do wonders for a person’s confidence.
im gunna go. ill try to check this tomorrow before i go. if you have any other help, please post it. thanks again everyone.
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ok, first of all you have the wrong mindset, dont go into something thinking your going to fail, because you will be so occupied on failing. Just tell yourself that you will be fine. Oh, and just so you know, I took my sister to the same event when I started college . I was so scared, I knew nobody, and I was 18, so dont feel like a loser, everyone there is in the same situation. oh, and dont care what people think, its a new place, they dont know you, so why would you care?????? hope everything works out, have fun, its a new part of your life. Take it as it comes.
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