friends help: Why does feeling alone hurt so much? - Help.com

What have you done to meet new people? Try expanding your social circle by joining a club or becoming active in a new hobby or sport. If you’re bi and having trouble dealing with it or talking about it, join a bi/gay/lesbian support group.
Try to expand and better yourself. Take care of yourself, take interest in yourself and other people. Look for friends, the love stuff will come eventually.

Meeting people is tough, and meeting a special person (close friend or lover) is rare. You’re not alone, everyone has to work at it.

Hi,

I can understand how you are feeling. I feel the same way, very alone at times, and i try to understand what it is that makes the feeling so painful.
I think what it is that we are wanting is a deeper connection inside ourselves. We all have many challenges in life and i think its always good to look at what the challenges are wanting to teach you. What i have learnt from my lonliness it that its taught me that all the things that we want form others such as love nad support and the rest - if we look clearly, can be found within ourselves. We can love ourselves and support ourselves the away we want others to. And as we do, we feel a sense of security within ourselves. Then we are able to be thankful for everything that comes itno our life and not expect others to fill in the voids we feel within ourselves.

This post was a really long time ago, but I know how you feel man.
It’s a feeling of disconnectedness… like you’re surrounded by people who care for you in a way that… just isn’t “enough” or in away you wouldn’t want to be cared for. And the fact that you’re not close to your family despite the fact that you’re probably fully aware that they love you doesn’t help.

Or at least that’s the way I feel.
I know my family loves me unconditionally.
It’s just that those conditions could never fully be tested to prove you wrong, in the same way your friends can never hypothetically or theoretically be tested on their patience of you because strife like that would be unforgivable if they ever knew it wasn’t for real.

You have to learn to plant your own flowers, dude. I’ve felt this way soo many times I’ve lost count. I feel this way often and it tears me up inside, whenever I’m with my friends, my parents, anybody. The love songs on the radio, the images on tv, they all enable these depressing feelings too. But the one thing that keeps me going everyday is KNOWING DEEP DOWN THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ARE NOT JUST THERE FOR ***** AND GIGGLES. THEY GENUINELY CARE FOR YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON. ABOVE EVERYTHING ELSE, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

don’t take any progressive advice man. I’ve taken it all. people telling you to be thankful, to not want and be selfless, to look at life in a different way, to basically “get over it”. Don’t get over anything bro, grow into it. I’m constantly told I’m an extraordinarily strong person by my peers, and it’s because I’m so self-aware. If you’re lonely, tell anyone who you would hope will care. I guarantee you, 99% of those people will show you that they do.