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I’m going to die friendless and alone.

I’m very lonely all the time. I’ve tried going out and making friends, but nothing seems to work. At some points, it looks like I have some new friends, then all of a sudden they stop calling or are too busy to do anything. I feel sad and alone. Is there something about me that turns people away?

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minipinkpenguin offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Your not alone in that one.

I can’t figure it out either.

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cherryjlu offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Heck, I’m to nice and can’t keep good friends! Between the three of us we now each have 2 friends :)

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ronin offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

The most often reason I see people loose new friends is because they are trying to hard.
Just be yourself and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. If you have to try and be different to make a friend, then that friend won’t last. Try to be confident that you are who you are, don’t worry what others think.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

People will run away if you need them too much. The best thing you can do is find a handful of social activities where you can go out and be in a group. That way you can chat with different people on a regular basis and not overwhelm any particular person with too much attention. For instance, I joined a movie & dinner discussion group 2x week and a biking group 2x week.

Check out meetup.com and see what’s happening in your area!

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Tnicolle offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Negative vibes, people can pick up on. It might be like…'’I don’t want to go around sucn and such, because he’s always in a bad mood, are always sad.'’ How do you act around them? How old are you? Just curious, because I’m 30 and at that age, friends don’t really run away.
Don’t be sad though. Just try and be positive. It’s alot more pleasant to be around positive people.

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cherryjlu offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (28 minutes after post)

tyonnn wrote:
Negative vibes, people can pick up on. It might be like…'’I don’t want to go around sucn and such, because he’s always in a bad mood, are always sad.'’ How do you act around them? How old are you? Just curious, because I’m 30 and at that age, friends don’t really run away. Don’t be sad though. Just try and be positive. It’s alot more pleasant to be around positive people.

True.

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arts4life2 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (59 minutes after post)

I’ll be your friend! I won’t turn you down (unless the ‘rents say otherwise… I hate that.)

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Vilén offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)

You have to be willing. If you call yourself a failure, you’re not going to make any friends. Be positive, or at least act so.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

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