friends help: I never thought I would write the following: I was once happy, - Help.com

Hi Acceller8i. Don’t give up. There are people here who care. Give us a chance to hear your story at least, to listen to you, to provide a shoulder (if only over the internet) for you to cry on.

You said you will lose the “car (house)”. Are you living in your car now?

Ok you need to apply for unemployment insurance, assisted living and all that. THere are many resources available for people in dire straights. There IS a way out.

I am sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I know it is hard, but dont give up. there are organizations out there that can help you. even if you are not religious churches usually have all the information about different resourses and organizations. you could try looking there. they would be able to help set everything up too. I know how overwhelming even the simplest things can seem sometimes, they will be there to help.

you can’t give up yet…have you seen the movie “the pursuit of happyness”? I think it fits your situation…the guy never gave up in the movie and that is what led to his sucess. You may be tired, but you HAVE to keep going. If not for yourself, then for your kid. But I also think you should do what Snar said and apply for unemployment insurance…also, there’s lots of organizations around where I live like “homefront” that get you a job and an appartment and clothes…I’m sure there are some around you

There are choices, you just dont see them yet and you wont be able to if you give up. We can provide you with hope and suggestions, something to build on. BRB

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“I wished for my birthday I would not wake up, but God did not hear me again”…

I can identify with that in certain emotional stages I had in my life, just wished it… I wished for happiness on birthdays. Its not your time, I think thats why your wish won’t come true. You are alive for a reason and eventhough you might not understand it now…you will eventually, but I can guarantee it is not to suffer this the REST of your life. You have to stay strong and strive for the sake of your kid, look into her eyes and see if you can say “mommy is leaving forever, mom wont see you ever again”.
You are a someone, d**mn this stuff should be personal face to face and all, that way we can hug you.

May I ask how old are you? Where are your parents? Any family? Friends?

We are listening, we are here.

Don’t you dare give up! just cuz your daughter is in good hands doesn’t mean she doesn’t need you. She needs you to be there when she falls off her bike and when she graduates, and gets married …..no-one can give her the love YOU have for her, there is NO substitute!

Find a homeless shelter, pronto. If you don’t know where to look, start at the Catholic church. They’ll help you right away, and I promise you’ll have a roof before another sun goes down.

There, you’ll be given a good long list of support services, from food stamps to job training and half-way houses that you can stay in before you can afford to live completely independant again. Sounds like you could also use a bit of counselling for the depression, and some legal services to help define your rights to your daughter.

Also, check out ****. Vincent’s. In many cities they provide decent clothing, hot meals, bagged lunches, etc to help you while you’re looking for work, and during that two-week (or more) period between finding a job and getting a paycheck.

Chin up. You are not alone, and you are not unwanted or unloved. Many, many people are willing to get to know you, and help you find ways to get back out of this situation and on your feet again.

Don’t give up. And surely don’t do anything you can’t undo. You can still do positive things, and if you give it time, the opportunities will come.

Dear Acceller8i,

I can only think how it is in your shoes. I am very sorry on what is going on. I do hope you still find the reason to go on everyday.

Have you found some ideas to get help lately? No matter what happens, hang in there. Your daughter would still know you as a loving mom who had much difficulties to go through, but do not worry she will be with you soon when things are better for both of you.

You are feeling a lot of sad things now and it is very normal. But find the courage to stand and try and try again.

I wish to know you more.

Acceller - I understand some of the feeling you are having. I am goign through hard time myself. I too have prayed to god and don’t understand why he lets us suffer. The faith and religion aspect I can’t help with as I have given that up. However..

Have you applied for food stamps, unemployment or any assistance?

What type of job are you looking for? Have you tried grocery stores, retails stores, resteraunt. They are always looking for someone. I know it may not be the job you want but it may get you the next stage.

How much is the car payment? Do you have anything at all you can sell orpawn to keep it for another month?

Please hang in there. You said you are living with friend? Can they help you at all? What about any other friends. Your daughter needs you so please hang in there for her.

Hey look at how many people came to help THEY care for you, THEY WANT to hear from you please, respond, god loves you, this is what god does he put us through theses situations not to test our faith, but to show us our faith, the bible says that god will NEVER EVER give us more than we can handle, because he loves us, he loves YOU!

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Just in case you return, I haven’t been well enough to participate on the site lately but I stopped by tonight to check things and only have time to read a couple of invites. Your post was one I felt drawn to read and I normally do not like to talk about the things that separate us, like politics, religion…. but when I got very sick and was about to start treatment, I had several people close to me make the comment about why does God do this to us and allow suffering. I won’t get into my beliefs and I certainly do not want to challenge yours. You need validation right now, and support. I can only share what I think on that one statement. I do not believe that God punishes us or rewards us. I believe we were given a few wonderful gifts by our creator (however we define that). The first is life, the second is free will to make the choices that create our path and the third I see are second chances. So when I woke up from my surgery (in ICU on a ventilator, with six IVs, tubes draining a few areas with all sorts of machines beeping around me - my first thought was disappointment for waking up. It hurt physically but I think more the idea that my life would never be the same as it was - that was difficult to comprehend. Some times living is harder than dying, I think. But I think we just go through things so we can learn and if you can figure out what you are supposed to be learning from all this, you’ll understand that second chance is coming your way. You’re learning to be a survivor and that is what you will be teaching your child. I wish I had more time to look up resources to help you but I can say if you look around this site, you’ll find common themes, solutions, friends and links to websites that can offer help and support. I agree that a good place to start if you haven’t already is your county job and family services organization (of course that assumes you are in the U.S.).