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So I’ve come to accept that I live in a messy house. Yeah, I take care of my room, at most there are small messes here and there, but for the most part it’s okay. But the rest of the house suffers from the bad habits of the people that live in it.
Part of the problem is that we don’t really have a place for everything, we have too much everything. We’ve been in this house forever, and it kinda just collected, most of it is not junk, either.
So what can or should I do? I’d like to have people over, but I feel embarrased if I do, being the youngest family member doesn’t help me push other to be more organized or clean either, I’ve tried.
Should I just throw a cloth over everything messy, warn people before hand, or just make my house off limits? The mess is starting to spread outside… it’s getting worse.
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My house is the same. I warned people beforehand, with some exaggeration, and when they got here they didn’t think it was bad because they were expecting worse lol.
Just don’t invite them over, hang out somewhere else. If they insist or wonder why you don’t ever invite them over, tell them that you live with pigs.
i guess i might not know just how bad it is, but i think messiness is always fixable..my room was disgusting for like fourteen years then i finally decided to clean it (and actually clean it, before “cleaning” meant shoving everything under my bed to me) and now its really nice…
2 words: Garage Sale.
Ok, what you want to definitely do is sort through your stuff. Thn you want to pick stuff you need and stuff you don’t need. For the stuff you don’t need, you can either keep it if you know you’ll need it in the future but the rest, put a box to sell.
Seriously, messiness ain’t always cool and might as well make a quick buck while cleaning up right? If it’s getting as bad as you say it is, just try to encourage those you live with to do the same, help you out and try to clean also. Clean, sort out, and get rid of what you don’t need. You’ll be surprised how much more comfortable it feels to live in a spacier clean environment and how the rewards are a lot better. Try it, you won’t look back.
i clean my house alot and i am professional cleaner. but right now at this very moment i dont want to clean. its not to bad right now. but if someone had came over right now i would be mortified. im being lazy right now. i probaly need to spend about three hours cleaning evrything. luandry washed folded and put away, bathroom, kitchen, excedra. but i clean about 4 to 7 times a month depending upon my mood. aware of germs i hate germs. i enjoy it once i warm up after about ten min. it impossiable for me stop its just the initial getting started. how many people acutally clean their homes. please dont say you must be ocd to keep a good clean house. just someone tell me who likes to clean or feels the need to clean and how often to do you clean? be truthful. thank you.
here are my thoughts about the clutter build up. 1) i dont think its depression that makes a person lazey. 2.) you probably have lots of money to buy needless things even at a good bargain, everyone loves a good bargain. 3.) why buy something to store away forever? eventually you will run out of room. when you purchased your home did it have functional storage. taking out the garbage seems like its so hard for my clients. make your outside dumpster close by your house becuase if its to far away you’ll end up storing stuff on the kitchen counter and not want to throw it out. most of the garbage is from using the kitchen. i would say call your local organizer to help you. to keep a clean and organized house is a learned behavior so your organizer will teach you to clean and make it easier for you becuase you will start out with a clean slate after the organizer is done. dont buy organizing materials you will just have more clutter in the end. trust me their are 1000,s of people who live like this. its not that they are bad people is just they dont know how to deal with the stuff they buy. its one thing in and one thing out. call your local organizer most likey you’ll end up spending about 22 to 34 and hour good luck and take care. to get faster results you will want to be there and dont buy anymore stuff. good luck.
i am a girl by the way i just used my boyfriends name
i live in a house with my mum and she is so messy and always has been. I feel embarressed and sometimes ashamed of her because she builds up so much mess its horrible to have to grow up in. I can never have friends round and they wonder why, im running out of excuses. We are quite poor so most of the junk is from jumble sales but it is getting out of hand. We always end up fighting because she wont see sense. the gardens are cluttered you cant see the grass and even our car is piled up with junk. I sometimes think about reporting her to the local council but i always feel bad so cant do it. please help me i feel like shes ruining my childhood x
Yeah right, ask people to help you out? With all do respect, I’ve done that and asked the nicest possible way EVER!! But because when I was living at a relatives house, no one… Absolutely NO ONE wanted to help keep the place clean. I felt disgusted because since they had visitors over and the facilities were always in use that was one major place where it was a MUST to be clean. The people who are living there are my Uncle, Aunt and two cousins which who are both femails. Both restroom were totally filthy, I and I mean FILTHY to the point were a dumster seemed cleanlier. Both my Cousins made excuses about the fact that they didn’t wanna clean because they were going to school at the same time as working. Yeah I understand that, but I went to work full time as well as school on my days off and still managed to come back home take care of my dogs and finish my chores. I can’t stand people becoming sloths because that shows irrisponsibility. Thiere rooms were beyond messy, I would even ask if I can help them clean it because just looking at that wole mess made me feel like we were living in trash.. I’m mean my goodness I bet pigs would be a lot cleanlier. But that’s just my opinion. Dirty and clean Clothes all over the room, especially old chip bags, drinks.. And so on, with looking at the clothes it seemed to have taking up the entire floor, I was confused because I thought they installed new carpet. With my Aunt, gosh…. Some one need to knock some sense into her because she doesn’t help at all, when she wakes up the only thing that interests her is the computer. When she’s hungry, she’s makes herself something to eat, take it to the room and leaves the mess there. All day every day she’s on the computer, never helps with cleaning or financially… I know she’s not disabled because she’s uses the computer, I even asked how come you don’t persue that dream job? She replies with a, “For what, we get enough money with the checks from the VA.” I’m dissapointed with that because that’s being selfish, she’s not helping out because she wants other to help her. I understand my Uncles has that excuse to not work, but he’s still pulling a lot more wieght than she’s supposed to. The front and back yard are messy as ever, yuck. They have pets inside the house but no one wants to take care of them. My Cousin has some pets, a dog and a cat some fish and two mice… But she never feeds them bathes them. My Aunt has her dog that she wanted to keep but as you guessed it she never takes care of it, she expects others to take care of her dog which is a nuisance because why would you want a dog if your not gonna take care of it. Her reply was rude, I have a husband, he’ll take care of it.” Some one please knock her out now!! Well basically I helped out tremendously when I stayed there, I’m grateful that they let me stay but when I did my part in helping around the house, my Cousins and Aunt saw that as I was the maid. So they made more messes, I finally gave up and decided to just keep my room clean because that’s where I’d be spending more of my time with my dogs.
Um. I’m messy. And I need help. I have a disability.
But, mostly I have a bad case of apathy. Also,
I have just addmitted to being lazy so don’t think
I’m trying to make an excuse. I was never tought
how to organize in a consitant way. Not just
house work, but in school as well. I always felt
an insurmountable stress. My mom raised me alone. And she
was always so pessesive. I couldn’t play after school with
my friends. My free time was spent making emotional allowences
for my mother. I have suffered all forms of eating disorder.
By the time I was 9 I was planning to kill myself. Because my
life had no joy. What’s more she was such a control freak
that when I followed instructions to clean, it
was never good enough and would stand over me and force me
to clean and re-clean things untill I was pushed to hysteria.
And if she was in a good mood that would be all for the night.
I am now a depressive shizophrenic. Further more
my chores never feel completed and rather than obsess over it
just to feel that same failure I opt not to clean.
I do try to keep it from stinking and do clean
the loo and practice self hygiene. Funny thing is
Dear ol mum is close by still. And she sometimes drops by
Unanounced. So I act like I have company or am doing something
Personal just to give her the impression that
She should call first.
listen, get some boxes and your stuff in them.
If you don’t have enough room for boxes put them in a pile!
Your problem reminds of the TV show the worse house where they can’t clean their house. They can’t even pass on their doorway because their mess scatter on their hallway as well as to their front yard. They made garage sale and earn money. Then the money they got used them for the renovation of their house. You can do this as well.
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