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You can still see each other at holidays. And there is MSN and other things like that where you can use webcams. He wont be going away forever, besides, you said he’s a year older than you so maybe next year you will be going to uni too? Try get into the same one as him. Then you will be together again. Have you talked about it with him? I’m sure he doesn’t really want to be leaving you behind either, it must be hurting him to have to leave. It’ll be working both ways.

No it’s not wrong. It’s very common, actually. You care for him dearly, and you are torn between letting him go and do what he wants for his career, and having him stay and be with you. You must let him go, so that he can have someone to miss and think of and come back to. Talk to him while he’s gone, let him know you miss him.
Listen, things will get better, “Good things come to those who wait.” Wait for him. It will be better.

Well, it makes sense you’d feel that way.
I think anybody would!
Have you ever thought that maybe he’d miss you?
I think this guy likes you a lot. Maybe he feels the same way.
Things change.. I got into my first choice, but decided not to go there.
It was just too far..and I would of missed all my friends.
How do you know for sure he’s going there?.. Is his mind made up?
Has he told you anything?

The way you feel isn’t wrong, in fact it’s probably how most people would feel. Let yourself be upset, it’s okay. But you also have to let him go, and that might mean that things are over between the two of you. It’ll be hard, but you can get through it. And there’s the possibility that next year you’ll go to a university near him and things will work out.

Hey,

Yeah Im sure he’s going - he rang me and told me when he got his results. In fact, he’s already started to pack. He was so excited when he told me the news and I didn’t have the heart to just break down to him and tell him how much I’d miss him. At the moment its looking like he WON’T miss me, but I dont know. Maybe once the excitements worn off and he actually has to go to lectures and things and everything is different, then he’ll start to miss me and others that he is close to. I know that I have to let him go, but it just hurts so much. Im not sure whether to tell him how I feel because I DO want him to know but at the same time I don’t want him to feel guilty about leaving me. I really want him to have all he wants and achieve all he can in life because I care so much for him, but its my care for him and how I feel about him that makes me want to keep me here with me. Im dreading his final day, that one last goodbye, the last hug. Tbh, on the last hug I really don’t think Im gunna be able to let go of him. Another problem I have is that I want to make his last days here memorable and fun, but at the same time I want to share with him how I feel. Im just so mixed up right now. Am I being melodramatic? Sorry for the length of this again but again it needed explanation.
Thank you for the answers so far x

I wouldn’t try to explain all your feelings to him if I were you. Just sweetly let him know that you will miss him.

RTJunker wrote:
I wouldn’t try to explain all your feelings to him if I were you. Just sweetly let him know that you will miss him.

Ok,
I don’t think I’d know how to tell him EVERYTHING I feel anyway.
Its just something I can’t put into words.

You have a very good idea to make his last days memorable and fun!
You should try and definitely do that so he’ll miss you when he leaves.

why don’t you cut out a picture of the two of you or take a picture before he leaves and slip it in something of his where he’ll find it later.
Right a message on the back of how you feel.

Its love, there is no explaination or anything for the way we react if its real. The way real love feels is so grand and wonderful and at the same time now that you know without a doubt that it is real love you have hard time letting that go, its almost like you’re scared you’re never going to have that connection again if it goes away and it hurts in so many ways. I have only felt this way once in my life and its with the person im with now and our situation is very crazy but I can relate to you on this.

you are about the sweetest person. it is common for you to feel like that and its not wrong. from what i am gathering, you really love this guy. you love him to point that you are just happy that he is fulfilling his dream even though you wont be with him for a long time. there are options you know. you guys could call each other or talk on aim or websites like that. i know it wont be the same as actually hugging him but it will have to do. besides he could visit on holidays and summer break or something like that. since you are only i year younger than him, you could try going to the same college he is going to.
i know i am in no position to dish out advise since i cant even tell my best friend i am in love with him but i hope this helps you.

by the way dont think for a second that he wont miss you, because from what i can see you guys are really close have something that is rare to find. he will so miss you. i just know it.

AmandaLynn wrote:
And you said you “didnt have the heart to tell him you’ll miss him”??? Sweety - when did it become bad to tell someone how much you’ll miss them when they go? … your perspective of this whole thing just seems a bit odd - which causes you to act oddly about it. Dont mask insecurities with nobility. If the guy is giving you no signs he likes you - then you prob just need to move on. If he is giving you signs - goodness… just say something. Your ok with just using one another to flirt with??? Or is he just the kind of guy who likes to flirt with girls? You’ll never have any solid answers for anything about this if you choose to remain ignorant and live off of your own opinoins and what you wish was. If you want to keep driving yourself crazy over this - keep on. But if you want answers - go get them. Things are not as complicated as we make them. Our insecurities and fears are what makes things appear complicated - when in reality - they are not.

i like all of what you said. maybe you could help me with my problems too.

Ok, I was the anonymous poster of this question but since I made the mistake of not staying anonymous in my reply, then I might aswell not be anonymous now.
I like the idea of taking a photo and writing a message on the back of it, however Im not sure what message to put. If its on the back of a photo, it’d have to be short and sweet I suppose, but if I wanted to tell him everything then It’d take up pages of paper! I will try and make his last days fun - we always had fun before and I don’t want it to end now. We’ll almost certainly keep in touch on the phone and maybe over the internet and even though its not as good and real face-to-face conversation or hugging, its better than losing contact altogether.
Thank you for the answers
x

AmandaLynn I like what you have put, I just had trouble putting my reply into words. Well, the message on the back of the photo (the idea I had) will only be like: Goodbye. Ill miss you xx
Or something along them lines. I am going to tell him how I feel face-to-face. To hell with it if the feelings aren’t entirely mutual, we’ll still be and will always be friends and I won’t live with the regret of not telling him. I’m seeing him tomorrow so Im going to tell him then.
Thank you for your replies.

Wow! Amanda Lynn I read everything you wrote here and I love the fact you spent your time putting that out there for us. It actually got me thinking differently about my own situation.. so I wanted to Thank You!:))

Hey Poster,
Glad you like the picture idea!..
And yeah, it doesn’t have to be long.
I think simply saying “I’ll miss you and the times we spent together!” will do just fine in red ink..
Maybe even rub your scent into it. lol
Make sure it’s a good photo and tuck it
somewhere for him to find it later.

I hope you tell us how it goes tomorrow when you tell him??
Good luck to you!