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What to do when someone acts indifferent?

I met an au pair who I was always talked and felt in love with. She spent her last week with me and we had a great time. We kissed, hugged and slept together. I told her all I felt towards her and held nothing back. When I dropped her on the airport, she left me a note and we said our good-byes. Afterwards, I sent her an email, called her when she got there, she told me that she never regreted a thing, but we needed to talk. Until today she hasn’t called, replied my email, and when she is in the messanger she just talks nonsense and stops replying. I’m dying thinking about this girl… It’s killing me… I hate her indifference, it seems that everything we did meant nothing. Man, I try forgetting about her, but all I can do is think about her. I hate her.

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Virtual_Monkey offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 minutes after post)

i know it’s hard but maybe she wasn’t looking to commit to a relationship. Also maybe she feels that the distance between the two of you would make it difficult. You need to speak to her as she has allreday made it clear that she wants to speak to you, so that you know where you stand in this situation. Not knowing is worse than knowing my friend

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Summerwind offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (49 minutes after post)

You don’t hate her. You just hate her indifference. Huge difference.

Perhaps she’s biding her time with you. Maybe she has another complication, and is waiting for the right time to talk to you. Or it could be as Virtual Monkey says, and that she wasn’t looking for a relationship.

I highly suggest you see where you two stand in this relationship. But if worst comes to worst, move on. I know it’s terrible, being hung out to dry, but really, are you going to waste your time with a person who clearly does not valor you enough to return a phone call?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

Thank you very much my pain is fresh and I know it will take a while to get over this situation. I will just give it time… Thank you all for the replies. I love this place.

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lemonslice offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (8 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Hi there, I read your message. I am sorry you got hurt. It seems she was stringing you along and enjoyed using the art of seduction on you without realising the impact it would have on you later. The best is to cut your losses and move on .. don’t keep communicating with her, she is not worth the effort. You are better than that. You will find someone special … give it time.

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