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Victoria Sponge

I am always helping people out and running around after

friends and family, especiallty my family, I need one small favor and they can’t help me out and have no good reason, I feel as though other people can turn to their parents if they are in a fix but I always have to turn to my friends and feel like a burden to them, the most hurtful thing is that my parents are always helping my little brother out even though he only pays them with anger and selfishness, anyone else feel this way

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Victoria Sponge 5 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I try and try talking to them they arn’t talkers and they arn’t affectionate, I have not hugged my mum for about 15 years now, my friends know I appreciate their help but they should have too do it and I still feel bad that my parents don’t help me, it has me more independant but I wish that I could be as selfish as them but I jumo when they need help

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (38 minutes after post)

If your parents ask you to do a whole list of things only do some of them. If they ask why you haven’t done all of them find a way to politely shove what they have done to you in their faces. You shouldn’t need ot put up with it.
Or remind them of that phrase, ‘Be nice to your kids, they choose your nursing home.’ =P

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

I had the same problem. It took years before I even had them acknowledge that they treated us differently. Not only did my father continue to help my brother in all ways (my mom die a few years ago). He used to call me to complain that he felt that my brother didn’t appreciate it or if it involved the loan of money, he’d complain that he really didn’t have the money or complain that he would never get paid back. It will never go away, but I threw a hissy fit a number of times and then I gave up. Now he love my son even more than he could imagine and that’s enough for me. So be strong and just be there for them should they need you. You’ll be all the better for it and just chalk it up to experience. You’re friend are really family some times when we boil it down. Just be thankful that they can help when needed. Good luck and keep your chin up.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

It’s like they say - your friends are God’s apology for your family :P

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1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Sometimes parents help the one they perceive to be the weakest the most. Perhaps your parents view your brother as weak and you as strong.

Are you living independently or with your parents? Are you old enough to be self supporting? From your parent’s viewpoint, do they do to much for you…feed, cloth, shelter a capable adult?

Your avatar is beautiful. If this is your own painting you are capable of supporting yourself big time. Pursue your art. You are extremely talented.

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

I live with my boyfriend and i am completly independent and support myself, i have never asked my parents for anything, they paid for my brother to have driving lessons and his test and his car, they have bailed him out of court time and time again and I still can’t drive and pay for my own lessons and i got a bit in debt with credit cards and no one bailed me out i have worked hard for all I have and I am please I am self sufficient so even tho i still crave attention from my famiy I guess I am just thank ful they made me who I am today and that I am nothing like my younger brother, Thanks everyone for all your advice and next time they need a small favor I will maybe be a bit busy that day

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