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How old is she?

shes gotta do it herself. really want to stop herself. she needs to pinpoint what exactly makes her feel so bad and find help to not let that effect her anymore or at least learn to cope with it better

Exactly signmycast. When someone cuts themself, it is usually because they are going through a lot of emotional stress, unless they are an attention seeker. She needs to be able to conquer this problem on her own, however there are little things that you can do to help.

Usually when people are going through these sorts of problem, they feel lonely and feel as though nobody really cares about them. You can try and comfort her and let her know how important she is. Maybe trying writing a poem or something inspirational that she can look at to let her know this.

Sometimes when battling a problem, it helps when people who are suffering from the same problem can gather together and talk about the situation. This site below contains a lot of information about self harming and also has quotes from people are have quit cutting themselves.

http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa

one of my friends used to cut and what helped her stop was:
everytime she felt the urge to cut she took a red marker and slashed it across her wrist. it doesnt really matter how hard you do it cause a marker cant exactly hurt you. but it takes a bit of the urge away. it may not seem like the best thing at first but it seirously helped my friend stop cutting. also just be there for her. thats really important. tell her to call you anytime she has the urge. tell her youll always be there for her no matter what and youll never leave.

She has to want to stop herself if she doesn’t want to stop then more than likely nothing will work. But I waas a cutter and my bestfriend was to, what stopped me was everytime I felt the urge I would slash a piece of paper with a read marker. I also wore a rubber band and everytime I felt the urge I would pop my wrists. What she really needs is some encouragement right now, tell her that she can stop and remind her of who loves her. Just let her know that you will be there for her no matter what and that you can and will try and help her. Sorry if I didn’t help you. Let me know if you need anything else. =]

First of all you need her to see it from your point of veiw.. she has to understand that this does not just effect her this will mke her feel guilty but in a way that might help her stop,

next you have to discuss with her what emotions she goes through when she does it and try and help her over come the things that make her do it in the first place,

find another way for her to out put her anger it really helps to like go running or read. sounds lame but it helped me.

my friends used to do this thing with me where if i did it they would pour vinegar over the wound to make it REALLY hurt.. it kinda made me feel ashamed and helped abit but its not always the way,

tell her you will always be there for her and make sure she can always turn to you,

erm i am going to stop with the advice now becuase you probalby wont take it and yeh.

good luck either way,

x

One way I stoped cutting was to flick rubber bands at my arm insted, sure its still hurting yourself, however you don’t leave any nasty scars. It stings to, the pain is much more than cutting, but I guess thats a good thing if your depressed.

One tip: If she’s cutting on the top, she’s looking for attention, if on the bottom, she’s depressed.

Emoness, not a good thing.

Gilgamesh wrote:
One way I stoped cutting was to flick rubber bands at my arm insted, sure its still hurting yourself, however you don’t leave any nasty scars. It stings to, the pain is much more than cutting, but I guess thats a good thing if your depressed.

One tip: If she’s cutting on the top, she’s looking for attention, if on the bottom, she’s depressed.

Emoness, not a good thing.

why if shes cutting on the top does she want attention??

angel_devil09 wrote:

Gilgamesh wrote:
One way I stoped cutting was to flick rubber bands at my arm insted, sure its still hurting yourself, however you don’t leave any nasty scars. It stings to, the pain is much more than cutting, but I guess thats a good thing if your depressed.

One tip: If she’s cutting on the top, she’s looking for attention, if on the bottom, she’s depressed.

Emoness, not a good thing.

why if shes cutting on the top does she want attention??

Because if she is cutting on the bottom, she can easily hide the marks. If the marks are on the top, it’s easier for people to see. Therefore, if the marks are easy to see, people are probably going to start talking to her about it, which may be what she wants. However, we can never be certain.

I hope that made sense.

oh okay that makes a lot of sense!

I don’t know whether this will help, but here’s my post on self harm. Hope it helps! =)
http://help.com/post/178847-self-harm

bookworm15 wrote:
I don’t know whether this will help, but here’s my post on self harm. Hope it helps! =)
http://help.com/post/178847-self-harm

Well done bookworm. That is a good post and contains a lot of decent information that is worth reading.

Thanks, if you have anything to add feel free to reply on my post or shout me. I want to try and make it as helpful and informative as possible.

See a psychiatrist…unfortunately cutting is not something you can just will to stop it may be indiciative of dissasociative personality disorder..you can really hurt yourself and die…take care of it…