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I feel like I’m wasting life.
It seems like I’m behind everyone else my age and I don’t know what to do or how to improve myself. I hate committing to things and I have broken a lot of links with people in the past, so it’s really scary for me to go out and try new things. I feel absolutely alone.
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tell us a little more, are you involved in any social groups, happy with your job, have a girl/boy friend?
Ok. So what’s the problem?
Your not alone. you came to the right place and I for one can relate. Yes, it’s scary but the alternative is to stay miserable and just survive as opposed to truly living life. You have to do it afraid and do it alone if you have to. Dont wait for the fear to reside because odds are it wont.Face the fears, push through them to the other side, prove the doubts wrong. Try small if you have to. A little at a time, but just do it. Dont fear the unknown, enjoy it , use it to your advantage. It will get easier with every step. I promise. Can you tell me more about your friends, what happened there ? YOu can go ahaed and reply but sorry, i have to leave for a while. I’ll invite some friends here and get back to you ASAP.
I have a job and I am starting highschool this september, I was home schooled for a long time because of past problems but I want to learn to overcome them, but it’s difficult for me because I get depressed and lose sight of my goals. I lost friends because of that and a lot of time.
So I just don’t know what to do to make things better for myself, I feel secluded and anxious all the time it seems and I don’t know how to fix it.
kudos to the answer above. The only way out is through, face the fear
What are your past problems? Do you have mental disorders?
Usually the fear of doing something new is worse than actually doing it. So don’t worry so much. You’re just putting yourself through more stress than you need to.
Thats a great point Hybrid makes. Our imagination can make something trivial seem worse than it actually is and truth is it never turns out as bad as we had thought it would. But when you expect the unexpected to be good its the other way around. Good things come. Yes there will be disappointments along the way but the good always outweighs the bad. Trust me.
I have had a lot of problems with anxiety attacks, the last one was a few years ago when I was still going to school and I took a serious overdose because it felt like no one was listening to me. I have tried going to councelling but I can’t commit myself to it, and I’m worried that things will be the same for me when I start high school again. I have gotten a bit better with social situations, I have a part time job but I find it hard to talk to people my age.
I know that most of this fear is just imaginary but it feels completely real and I really want to over come it but I’m freaked out by these insignificent things that are getting in the way of my life..
You said you’ve gotten better at social situations, and you havent even gone to highschool yet. So obviously you have the ability. You just need practice.
You know the things are “insignificent”, so why let them bother you enough to interfere?
I know that feeling. i feel like im never get a job. I dont think i’ll ever find a job I enjoy. even go anywhere in life.
go to http://www.pickthebrain.com/
they good advice
It ‘Feels real’ yes. But our feelings are not true to us sometimes. Once you understand our thoughts lie and recognize the doubts are just that ‘Lies’ the feeling wont override it. It will be more rational to you.
I understand what all of you are saying and I want to thank you a lot for the words of advice and encouragement. I guess that I will need to learn to get through this slowly … I don’t know, some days are just really difficult to face. But this really helped me a lot, I am feeling better now that I have talked about it a bit. So thank you.
Your welcome. Stick around we’ll be here for you, especially when the bad days come. It sounds like you were looking for an easy answer. Sorry, i truly wish there was one easy answer but unfortuanatly ther isn’t .
good luck if you still need it
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