Love help: love sucks… its impossible to please your friend and your boyfriend. - Help.com

You can’t treat your friends differently to how you treated them before you started dating him.

There should be room for both.

If your friends are real friends they should understand that you are in a relationship. And your partner should understand that you should not abandon your friends.

First of all, your friend should know that changes happen. You can have time for both. Or the three of you should stay sometimes and have fun. Both of them should not compete.

Friends have to understand that when one of them gets a partner, most of their spare time will go to them. If your friends can’t understand that, then they’re kinda selfish and immature. (don’t know how old you are, maybe they haven’t dealt with it much yet).
But you *should* be sure to make some time for your friends too, just so they know they still matter to you.

Still see your friends. They are important and you need to keep them. Make time for your friends. See your partner, but always make time for your friends. they will still be there when the partner is long gone.

However, our friends need to give you time out to see your partner. And understand that this is part of life, you need to explore this. They should give you the freedom to so that.

Your partner, should not want to take all of your time. S/he should be happy to let you see your friends. In fact, if he is very possessive and wants to stop you seeing any of your friends, panic.

Oh, wrong friends, wrong boyfriend! It so shall pass! Life will be good again! Wait and see!

Anubis wrote:
Your partner, should not want to take all of your time. S/he should be happy to let you see your friends. In fact, if he is very possessive and wants to stop you seeing any of your friends, panic.

Amen.

ok, well id just like to say my best friend is in a serious relationship with a guy who i used to absolutely hate, and im sure he didnt like me all that much either, but we put aside our differences to get along with each other so that she would be happy and i suppose we are quite good friends now.

i guess what im trying to say is that if your friend and partner really truly care about you then they should try and get along for your sake, if they cant do that then maybe you need to find a new friend and a new partner. try talking to them both so they know how you feel and they should try to put aside their differences.

I agree with the previous posts-
If your friends are true friends they will be happy for you and support you in your decisions.
If your boyfriend truly loves you then he will understand that your friends are not people that you will abandon, and that yu love them too.
Perhaps they would get along better if you included both sides in an activity, let them get to know eachother a bit better; maybe then they will understand why you don’t want to make a choice between them.

If you had a mature boyfriend and mature friends you can please both.