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When my best mate got with her boyfriend i was so happy

for her until she got so engrossed in him and forgot about everyone else.that was more than a year ago. I have had a really tough year and felt my friend should have supported me which she didnt. I mentioned this to a mutual friend who said it back to the girl. She turned on me and told her never to speak to her agian. Should I try to sort things out or am i better off without her.

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wingstofly offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (46 minutes after post)

She doesn’t deserve you. Same thing happened to me. Only I was a made of honour. Took a loan to pay for their wedding gift, and after everything, she turned her back on me, for her hubby told her not to hang out with me anymore.
She really doesn’t deserve you. It’s her turn to say sorry.

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1 year, 3 months ago (49 minutes after post)

thanks so much for that i kind of thought that it should be her apoligising not me just wanted someone to confirm it. I wish people would learn that you can have a boyfriend/girlfriend and still make time for your friends

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (50 minutes after post)

you’re better than that… forget her

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Do you want to fix it? Do you want to put in the time and effort to fix a friendship? You should look over how the friendship was. If it’s worth fixing then you should fix it. Sometimes girls get so engrossed with their boyfriends that they forget about their friends. Then when they break up or have a problem, they come back needing help.

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1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

part of me wants to fix it but part of me feels that the time and effort put in would all be a waste and would be short lived.She came crying to me before the incident i mentioned and i accepted it.She even apoligised for not talking to me as much or being there for me but within days had gone back to the way it was before.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

How Long did you know her before that happened?

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1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

three years

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

Were you extremely close?

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1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

yea we were that was until she got with her boyfriend.Even when she was with previous boyfriends we still remained very close.but as soon as she got with this guy she alienated everyone and feels she has to spend every minute with him

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

Is it your friend or the boyfriend doing that?

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1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

My friend but he seems to have gone the same way to and barely speaks to his mates either

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1 year, 3 months ago (4 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Well if she spends more time with her b/f than you and isn’t there for you when you need her then my guess is that she isn’t a TRUE FRIEND. You are better off without her. The friend who told her what you said - looks like you can do without him/her aswell!
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