friends help: nasty girls backstabbing and being nasty bullying me. - Help.com

So in real life if one of them comes up to you and starts talking ****, honestly, don’t say a word back and just crack her in the face. They need to know in a way they can understand that you’re not putting up with crap. Besides, if everybody really does like you, you’ll have backup so they won’t try anything back.

NICE!!!

lol but i dont really wanna start punchin and stuff. what else can i do?

To be honest I guess the best you can do is ignore it. If you’re going to fight them at any point, don’t start like a verbal/mental games war back at them; those drag out waaaaaaaaaay too long and actually hurts people a lot more than a punch.

well, bullies are usually have something they are insecure about..and maybe picking on other people makes them feel better about themself. To be honest, these girls dont sound like very nice people! Is there any way that you could hang out with another group of people at school ? If you distance yourself from them they might back off a bit…and will eventually start to miss you as a friend.
I think all they are trying to do is provoke a reaction. Dont stoop to their level though! If you do something drastic or mean, it will be as though you are just as bad as them!

Just keep ignoring them. They are jealous. They don’t like themselves. But just ignore them. You seem to be the mature one. Never put your hands on anyone unless they actually touch you. that used to happen to me. They would talk trash all day. I’d ignore them and keep walking. But because I did that they tried to test me, and got they’re azz whipped. Let ‘em talk all they want. That’s young girls for you. And unfortunately, you actually have grown women who act like that. But for the nmost part, ignore them. They’ll get tired of it after a while

I don;t think it matters the reason that they’re doing what they’re doing. They’re bullying you, and it needs to stop.

Option 1. Confront them. Stand right in front of them, look mean, and say in a firm voice “this has got to stop, understand?” have some of your boys back you up.

Option 2. Ignore them and or make snippy comments into your friends ears they can’t hear. If they laugh at you, whisper into a guy’s ear “careful, they’re contacting their home planet. any minute now we’ll be surrounded by female drones!” Anything to make him/her laugh. If you’re not alone, its easier to ignore them.

Option 3. They’re only going to be mean in a group, most likely. Avoid said snarky band of devils.

But its probably going to get better. Highschool is loads bigger then middle school. So there’s more room to evade them. And you’ll continue making friends while they don’t. But you shouldn’t hate them. Hate leads to hate leads to hate. Do what you can, but don’t let them get a rise out of you. And don’t torment them if you can. If you have a “whatever…” adititude to them, they’ll leave you alone.

It is a point of a true woman’s character how she deals with such situations. You sound as though you have a reasoning and mature outlook on life. Violence certainly is not the answer - especially as both most school systems and the law are cracking down on such things now. For your personal, emotional standpoint; decide in yourself that you are done with these girls. Don’t retaliate, don’t argue, don’t email, don’t react. It’ll only feed their vindictiveness. Do find other friends that know how to be friends. Do continue to pursue your own interests, and be good at whatever you do.

Surely do focus on more positive things, such as your own life and success. Believe me, to reach adulthood and know a beautiful life is the greatest revenge on those who, because of their own insecurity and insincerity will get precisely what is coming to them — everything comes back. Just be sure you keep watch, if tv and the web are to be believed, little girls are getting dangerous as well as nasty. If you ever truly feel threatened in anyway - tell your parents and have them ‘handle’ it.

thankyou so much everyone. (:

i feel loads better today, and I do have a very very good friend, plus a few other goods ones.

they cant beat me.

Good babe. They can’t beat you anyway, as long as you turn the other cheek when it comes to them. You’ll be the bigger woman in the end. You’ll have all the friends while they’re still huddled in their little corner with the same few girls talking about everyone else.

Be happy that they feel the need to make you the topic of their discussions. It means that you are special. That you are important. That’s how I look at it. Let the haters hate.

thanks (: