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Cause they want to get even for something or the just find pleasure is someone else’s pain.
Often it is done to hide their own insecurities in an attempt to make them feel better about themselves. Sad but true.
This is an excellent response.
Well.. either accidentally or purposefully. Those are the only two options. They either did it not realize what they were doing or they did it knowing what they were doing and just decided to do it.
Sometimes, some people are not as aware of “others” as they are of themselves and they dont really think things through or put themselves in the other persons shoes. Some would call these people selfish, others maybe relationally challenged… but whatever you call it.. people still do it accidentally because they get caught up in the moment of “spewing things out” (especially if they are getting a good laugh from others and they wanna keep the ball rolling). And they just may let things come out to keep their “image” up in the heat of the moment. Usually at their core thess people are insecure… no matter how “outgoing” or “talkative” they may seem or even egotistical…. it is the inherant focus on themselves that keeps them from thinking of others… and a constant focus on ones self is an “being on guard” measure.. almost like being on defense mode all the time. And habbits develop.. and pretty soon.. its just part of their character.
Others may do it purposefully out of spite or anger. Could be an angry person with a consistant anger problem and their just pissy at everyone and mean all the time. Also a habbit thats developed over time stemming from insecurity issues or being hurt way back when.. or could simply be how they learned to deal with weakness or issues by watching their parents or others. Other times it could be just a momentary angry thing.. like.. you hurt me and im gonna hurt you back. Sometimes immediately following the hurt.. sometimes way down the road from grudges people hold. … but.. i think thats about the only two answers i got for you on that one.
Because they’re a f**kng assho*e.
I was in a relationship with a women that hurt me a lot. She would humiliate me, let me down, and lie to me. I thought she was a sadist or a dominate person that found pleasure in it but during one of our conversations I ask her and she said she did not like that sort of thing. She fit that mold very well. Could someone be a sadist and not know it?
She must have loved me because she would not let me go and would always track me down. I never understood this. If people don’t enjoy hurting other why would you do that. Really strange.
Being humiliated in public by someone’s own grown child is the worst. It happened again to me today and it has been persistent with this grown up kid for about 3 years. I have taken this abuse quietly, but today I exploded, Big Time! I feel so demeaned, especially becaue I allowed her to get away with this abuse for so long. Tonight I feel like I hate her!
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People who do this on a regular basis are insecure and they only do it to try and shine at someone else’s expense. Usually, these
same people will go completely off it the same thing is done to them. They characteristically are people who like to dish it out, but can’t take the same kind of public humiliation when it is done to them.
thank you those really helped
I had a woman do this to me two christmas days ago..she made an appointment to sit beside me so she have full reign of what she was going to say…she even asked my husband if that was ok to sit by me..so he was renigated to the other side of a round table.
she waited til I was cutting up a special xmas dessert I had made which turned out great and this petite woman waited til was I serving them up to humiliate me in front of 9 people by bringing up some lady she knew who lived in her town and her size…so she brought up this to me and everone at the table was so astounded that no-one said anything and all looked at me waiting for me to say something..I have a handicapped son and the days leading up to that xmas day were very stressful as he had come down with epilepsy. This woman is very petite and has been left a ladies money she was not supposed to inherit ….I hardly know this woman but she is a sister in law of my friend… it almost broke my marriag up due to my husband sitting there idle …I didn;t say a word and left the room … I have never got over this and I feel like this woman has achieved what she set out to do..my girlfriend whose house that was hosting this xmas dinner didn;t say anything either..both my parents were chubby in older age and I will never be skinny..I have since learnt that I should have said to this woman I was brought up not to say anything nasty and should have said how rude she was to me..but at the time u are stunned. I feel like she either doesn;t know anything about me or knows something she doesn;t approve of. I am an angel card reader and lightworker.. I was also brought up in a catholic school..I am never rude to anyone.. i will not tolerate anyone like this again.
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