Family help: I had a great job for 7 years then 9/11 came. - Help.com

what does 9/11 have to do with you losing your job?

First, 9/11 has nothing to do with anything. That was just a play for sympathy. You got laid off. It happens.

Second, you do not owe your daughter a college education. She is 25 now, old enough to make this happen on her own if she wants it.

If your daughter wants an education, she should apply to colleges. If she is admitted to a good school, they will meet her financial needs. Some of the financial aid will probably come in the form of grants, some will come as loans, and some may come as work-duty.

If she doesn’t get financial aid, she can work full-time during the day and go to a community college at night.

Why do you assume that she can’s and shouldn’t work? We value most the things that we work hardest for. She is way too old to have an education handed to her off the sweat of your back.

Also, why are all these other people freeloading off you?

I am not at all surprised that you are stressed, but I don’t understand why you have accepted responsibility for supporting all these people, and I certainly don’t understand why you would expect a stranger to help you.

You need to learn to say “no.” $370 a week takehome pay is barely enough to support one person, let alone six. Tell the other five they need to start taking care of themselves.

Good luck.

I thought the last reply was kinda harsh.. but they are right. You should be planning for your future, not everyone elses. You are getting close to retirement, don’t blow the last few years of working supporting everyone else and not putting anything in the bank.

It’s called toughlove, Michael. She needed a reality check, unembellished. These people are using her.