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For the past 2 years, I have been in love with this girl who lives in another state.

We started off talking a little, and grew to be good friends. About a week and a half ago, we told each other that we both had big crushes on eachother. I was pretty happy to hear this. Only a few days later, after we had started talking on the phone much more than we ever have, my feelings for her started to fade. Before this change, whenever I would think about her, I would always feel warm and longing for her. Then I started to feel empty. And then guilty about it, because she always told me how wonderful I was and how great we would be together. We even made some plans about what we would do after high school. And then I told her that I had sort of lost the feeling I got when I think about her, and she seemed to be a little upset about that. I was very upset, not only because she is all I have ever wanted for the past 2 years and really all I could ever want in a girlfriend, but because I knew it would hurt her. And then she asked me how she should consider me (like as a boyfriend or just a friend) and I explained how it had sort of just faded away, without any reason. It really frustrated me, and made me feel terrible. I haven’t been able to really speak with her since, because that was only last night, but I do know that she is sad and really hurt. And the absolute last thing I wanted to do was hurt her. Like, I think I’d rather give up a finger or 2. So I woke up feeling terrible about how I can’t seem to love the girl of my dreams and how bad she must feel. I couldn’t really be very clear with how I was feeling with her, because it wasn’t very clear to me. So now I really want to love her and be with her, but I need some help. Please help!

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2511 ♥ S ☺ offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 340 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Well, sometimes we only realize some things, when we loose them…

But the damage is made, and she’ll probably happy to see that you’re back to your normal self…

Maybe you should say that…the truth about it…and that you’re sorry, and that you hadn’t realized how much you loved her til now…

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 44 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

Maybe you’re just scared of commiting to someone so far away that you can’t really be with? that might make you go numb for a bit.

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girlinra offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 hours, 17 minutes after post)

dude ,,,u just grab da phoon and tell her dont even wait for naother minut,,becuz we girls can realy love easily and forget easily specialy when a guy does this just go and have her and tell her what u woret up her becuse if she readies this she’ll be the happies gal ever,, ther is nothing to be shyed or afraid off its love anddit doesnt happen more offten,, and u both are so lucky to have each other so dont ever evr miss the chance who knows whats ganna be nxt ??? truly uma

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3 months, 1 week ago (9 hours, 41 minutes after post)

girlinra wrote:
dude ,,,u just grab da phoon and tell her dont even wait for naother minut,,becuz we girls can realy love easily and forget easily specialy when a guy does this just go and have her and tell her what u woret up her becuse if she readies this she’ll be the happies gal ever,, ther is nothing to be shyed or afraid off its love anddit doesnt happen more offten,, and u both are so lucky to have each other so dont ever evr miss the chance who knows whats ganna be nxt ??? truly uma

??? it usually helps more if you type in english

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girlinra offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 hours, 37 minutes after post)

its english if you know how to figer it out??

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