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I just want to relax and be myself.

Whenever I talk to to someone or speak in a large group of people I studder, words don’t come out right, I can’t explain anything, and then I just look like an idiot. I want to be able to talk to people and not have this problem. I had a job interview today and I dont think I got it because of how weird I sounded. Help….please….any suggestions?!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Exactly what you said in the tittle…

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (33 minutes after post)

Im like that. I think its a confidence issue. I guess you build it by talking more in front of large groups of people but im not sure.

2511 wrote:
Exactly what you said in the tittle…

Thats easier said than done

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Chameleon offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (58 minutes after post)

Nerves really can do a number on us can’t they?
I’m the same way around people. I have a social phobia. Have you looked into seeing a doctor and checking for a similar diagnosis? There are treatment options.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (5 hours, 59 minutes after post)

Look proffesional, dress up I mean, look the person you talk to in the eye and awnser with good awnsers when you get asked a question. Try not to be nervous because that can make it worse. Overral, just try to do your best.

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virgin_queen offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Boulder, CO, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

I think it’s both a confidence issue and a matter of personality. I mean if you’re naturally introverted social situations are always going to be a little nerve-wracking. I’m that way, and usually all the anticipatory anxiety of being in a social arena destroys any chance of me seeming confident. However, I typically “fake it” until I feel at ease. Think of it as acting.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (4 days, 7 hours after post)

Worrying is a bad habit, you need to overcome it like any other bad habit. Try to modify the factors under your control, that is the only thing you can do. From http://mshn.org/worry.html

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

can anyone help please i beg you i feel inferior in front of the world i am frighten of the world i am not able to speak up with anybody please!please!please help me i need lot of courage boost me

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (8 months, 1 week after post)

i have the same problem and im only 14. its so bad i cant i say something hundreds of times in my head before saying it and then it just comes out wrong.then i get more nervous. i cant even talk to my own girlfriend.this problem is basically ruining my life.i dont kno what to do anymore.

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