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I’d like to say I’m here for you, friend. But I’m just a guy who edited your post online. I probably live no where near you nor do I know you full situation. I want to tell you to hold your chin high, return to your roots, and seek friends and maybe a lover. Find motivation. Something to wake up for and treat yourself right. I’m sorry if you didn’t want me to edit your post, but I had to. It’s what I do.

Give us some more info for us to help you. Why did you drop out in your senior year? was the school not for you? Once you graduate college, you can take time off to deal with life and fix things, then get a job and life will be better.

Don’t give up, life always gets better. You’re only 20!!! You will soon find someone to love, and you’ll be glad you stuck it out.

What do you think might have led to depression? Were you scared of growing up? (I’m not poking fun of you, I’m being serious, it’s common). Heck, I admit I hated going into college too, and I think I was depressed for a little when I was a freshman.

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Sounds like you need to gain control of your life again and prove to yourself you have the capability to master certain situations. I know old habits die hard, but I would kick the drug habit in exchange for what will eventually become a happier existence once you see yourself in a different light. Don’t allow yourself to put YOU down or even to see yourself as unworthy or somehow a low life. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make the attempt to move forward. You may need a personal or life coach for something like this to motivate, inspire, set you on your feet and show you on your way. Its like being a baby all over again. Sometimes we have to be our own personal or life coach and find the things that do get us going in a positive direction. For me it was the a solid exercise routine, changing my diet, getting proper sleep, finding a job I loved and the library! I found that reading up on things I have always been curious about or afraid to do and trying them changed my attitude about myself and the way I perceived my life in general. I started feeding my interests and developing new ones… traveled alone for the first time in my life when I was in my 20s, took classes outside my main interests - outdoor astronomy, rock climbing, kayaking, Italian language, Greek and Roman history, Renaissance art history etc… I met new friends and found out I had more to talk about after challenging myself to move forward and experience life rather than stagnating or soaking up my depression like a sponge - or basically not going anywhere from there. Its a tough thing to get started and seems easier said than done, but once you are on your way you will feel the difference. As Anon said you are only 20! You have so many options available and paths you can take. My suggestion would be to work on taking control of your life in order to make it work for you to the best of your ability.

Well, I think you have to reach a point where you are tired of feeling like the bottom of the barrel and take the first step in a different direction. In my case I just got tired of being down and being under the spell of depression the majority of the time. It was wasting my time and zapping my energy. Believe it or not it really seems to take more energy to be depressed than it does to feel happy. I totally understand your dilemma though. The motivation factor is the hardest hurdle to overcome of all the obstacles. I had to become a parent or personal trainer and basically keep myself from going into that zone. Really though you just have to know when you are fed up and tired and ready to make that change in order to improve your situation. It may be that you need some down time… but everything is best in moderation rather than given all at once and down time should be only just be once in a while. A change can be daunting, intimidating or whatever, but it can also be a breath of fresh air once you get that place and look around for the positives and at the beauty there is out there in the world. I might even start by literally taking a step …acting on it and going for a long walk at a certain time each day. Try forming a routine. Really that is how I started with my exercise routine and it helped me to put my thoughts into some perspective. Everyone is different though and so it may not be your thing. But I do hope you can find your way with or without suggestion.

I was in the same position when i was 15 after my brother was killed in a car crash, ok i didnt do drugs but you get the picture it was bad, i now run my own business wich i started from scratch. all i can say is have hope

First thing you need to do is get off the drugs. Try and get a friend or family member to stay with you for a week or three to help you stay strong and get through the detox. Because drugs like marijuana increase depression and suicidal thought in some people. not all, but that could be a factor here, and it certainly doesn’t help.

Second thing, enroll back in school. I’m not sure how you managed to get in your senior year at only 20, but you must be pretty smart. Did you skip a grade or something? BEcause you need an excuse to get out of the house more, and school is perfect. Plus, being around people will help with the depression, because when you’re alone all you do is dwell on your problems. Do you have a job? If not, get one. that will help too if you have some other goals to focus on.

Third thing, try and see a therapist. Find out if you have clinical depression or some other disease that could cause this kind of feeling. S/he may prescribe an anti-depressant. That might help.

Keep a journal and each day list 5 things you are thankful for.