Love help: My girlfriend and I have been going out for 11 months, and she’s thinking about the future a lot. - Help.com

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shes only 15, and shes your first girlfriend. You’re right, you should be uncomfortable with this. You are both young, you both have your whole lives ahead of you and there are plenty of fish left in the sea so to speak. If i were you, i would tell her that you have not yet even graduated highschool yet, and that you feel you two should hold off until after college (if you plan on going to college). Tell her that if your relationship can survive four years of going to different schools (probably), then you’ll be absolutely positive shes the one. idk thats just what i would do.

*I agree with TheJ. She’s only 15 and you’re not much older. You need to explain to her that you think she’s moving a little fast and looking too far forward. ALOT can happen in even the time it takes for her to graduate. She should worry about the present and not the future too much. There will be plenty of time for talk like that later, if you make it that far.

Seriously, there’s nothing wrong with that at all. It’s a lot of pressure for anyone at any age to have their partner thinknig like that.

Maybe you need to make it clear that she can’t just expect things like that. That’s a much bigger deal than just going out for a year, and your perspective on life is very different when you are school age.

Tell her you love her, and you hope that the future holds that sort of thing, but there’s no way you can know right now.

Thanks a lot, guys.

alexp201 wrote:

just tell her you love her
always tell her you love her

Only if its true. Feelings can change. if they do, make sure to tell her.

My beleif is that there is no point in being in a relationship without the intention of marriage. I also despise highschool relationships, strange when I’m planning to marry mine, HA!

haha, 20. I’d say 26 at least.
I don’t wanna get married til I’m nearly 30.