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I am a punching bag.

And I don’t know how to get the support I need from my friends. I feel dejected. I know that I cannot rely on others for my own happiness… but is it wrong of me to get sad/angry when they don’t answer my phone calls (regularly) or call me back? I know that is on the more trivial side of things. I just feel used, and do not know how to salvage the friendships with the people I care about even though they always just come to me when there is something wrong or they have nowhere else to turn to. Should I do the same to them to let my presence be felt? To make things more complicated, most of them will be leaving for far off schools in the next week and I can’t help but feel that I may lose possibly three great friends. Maybe they aren’t worth it? Any advice?

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lexy32 offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

If they are getting ready to go away to school in another week, they are probably just really, really busy. Be the better friend. Offer to help them with packing. That way you can share in some of the excitement and still spend time with them before they leave. Great friends are worth the extra effort. With email, myspace, cell phones and everything else, you can still keep in touch with them, even if they are several miles away.

Good Luck!

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Pillow offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

I second lexy’s post! Unfortunately it’s not quotable for some reason - but it was excellently written and says everything I would say.

Your friends might be just really stressed right now, you know? Sometimes when people get stressed, they limit their “social circles” a bit to help cope. They shrink their world a bit. It’s probably got nothing to do with how you are or anything, especially if they were really great friends with you before. :)

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