mother help: How can I get my mother to know she is appreciated?

Gamerkc

How can I get my mother to know she is appreciated?

My mom vents on me a lot. I like that she trusts me, but I wish I could do more. Recently she’s been going through a lot of crap- it’s too much for her to handle. She shouldn’t have to put up with all this crap lately given her condition (badly injured ankle coupled with some bipolar disorder). She’s been telling me how she feels unappreciated- I appreciate everything she does, but I wish I could get her to feel appreciated by me AND everyone else.

There’s gotta be a way.

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Hybrid Theory 44 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Get the whole family together to do something nice for her. Give her a day off in bed, just resting and having everything done for her.

Or, whatever you do on mothers day. treating her like its her special day when you don’t have to will go a long way.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Same with my mom! My family nags her so much and I feel bad becouse she does alot for us.

Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

Hybrid, that sounds like a good idea- a nice day off for her would probably do wonders, she’s so busy.

Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

And yes Anon, the situation is similar- she has so much crap to deal with and it really isn’t fair because to be honest she’s one of the most important people in my life, if not the most important.

Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Gamerkc wrote:
And yes Anon, the situation is similar- she has so much crap to deal with and it really isn’t fair because to be honest she’s one of the most important people in my life, if not the most important.

I agree completly

Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

Well I’m glad we have a similar situation. I mean I’m not happy about it, but y’know, it’s good to know I’m not entirely alone.

Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

yeah, does your dad nag your mom alot also?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

How sweet of you to care about mom. Im so upset when I hear kids say they hate their family. YOu have a kind heart :) Your probably thinking about something big you can do but It doesn’t have to be big. Showing her every day in small ways will be more satisfying and long lasting . Do you thank her, help around the house, things like that? do you have any ideas maybe we can help you with?

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Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

I do try to clean the house- there are 3 little frickin’ devils in the house making messes all day (age 6-10). So I clean, but I do wish to do more. Cleaning is a casual thing in our house.

I have no ideas of what to do besides get a nice gift for her.

Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)

Anon, that’s not really a problem, not anymore. They have a pretty good relationship but even my dad, though not on purpose, can make my mom feel unappreciated.

She feels like she’s expected to clean and whatnot.

babacup 5 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

Saying thank you helps. My husband tells me thank you every night when he finishes dinner. Those words go a long way.

If she washed your clothes, you can tell her ” thanks for washing this more me.”

A day off for moms is nice, I had one this week and it was great, but it is the everyday appreciate that will make a big difference for her. Notice when something has been done around the house. Like if the the bathroom was a mess when you left for school but now it is shinning. Acknowledge her. Say “wow thanks for cleaning up the mess I left, the bathroom looks much better.”

Take the 3 little devil for a walk and give your mom a few minutes of quiet peace. A break for the kids is always good. She needs time to be herself and not mom all the time.

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freshwater 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 47 minutes after post)

I could not have put it better myself babacup.I am a mum and the small things like people noticing when you have tidied up the house/room ect our cooked a meal just say how nice it was and say you will all do the dishes while mum has a rest.

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Gamerkc 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

Thanks a lot, you two- I’ll try that from now on. :D

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