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Fairytales only exist in books and in the movies. Real relationships take a lot of work.

Join a drama class so you can play out all this Snow White/ Cinderalla complex thing you have going on. He probably wishes secretly that all the Pussycat Dolls fancied him but he sticks with you. You have to work on getting the sparkle back - Mas

jcd wrote:
Fairytales only exist in books and in the movies. Real relationships take a lot of work.

Pffft. Poppycock. Yeah, relationships take a lot of work, but there’s a least some magic in it.

What you need to do is stop worrying so much about it, Anon. Take time to enjoy the love you have with each other instead of stressing over the little life things. Go out when it’s a nice day, pack a classic picnic with the checked blanket, sit for a few hours and play a verbal game, tell jokes. Just enjoy each others company a little more than usual. Make it fun, instead of a chore or feeling as if it’s obligation.

Might sound corny, but why not try it?

I don’t think that it’s a fairytale at all to want to be swept off your feet. I think that just because a guy is great doesn’t mean that he’s meant for you. If after 9 months, you’re questioning whether you want to pursue something else, think of how it will be after 10 yrs. Will you always regret not trying to find “the one” or will you be like so many others who find the “love of their life” while their married/partnered in a long term relationship & destroy the other person & possibly your children? Life shouldn’t be about settling out of fear, whatever that fear is. And so what if something isn’t “happily ever after, forever & ever.” We’re so trained that every relationship is about “growing old together” when we should be loving each moment with the person we’re with. If you’re swept away by someone, you will live like that, instead of always thinking about when you’re old! :) Do yourself & the other person a favor & don’t settle, then you give them an opportunity to find someone that really, really deeply loves them & yourself the same!!! Do it out of respect & love for both of you. You can find a passionate love, sweetheart. Love is work, but I agree with the poster above, there is a sort of “MAGIC” that exists & then the work isn’t hard, everything flows when you’re with someone perfectly & you feel it & know it with all of your being. (((Sending you lots & lots of Love!)))