marriage help: I think I want to leave my wife.

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I think I want to leave my wife.

Why do I? Why can’t I? How do I even know? It hurts and I want your help!!!!

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

It’s so not easy to leave some one u loved. U need to tell her that u love her as a friend but your marrige isn’t working and u need to leave and say ur doing this for both of you good luck

noël 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

well, you’re the only one that can answer that first question. just think about it for a while and i’m sure you’ll be able to at least start to figure things out. if not, you could always try talking things out with a close friend or counsellor. sometimes it helps just to get things out.

you probably feel like you can’t because you don’t want to hurt people. her, you, your (possible) children. it could change the way people view you, not necessarially for the better. and of course, you’ve obviously invested a great deal of your life to this marriage.

well, i’m not sure what exactly you mean by “how do i even know,” so i can’t be of an awful lot of help there. how do you know you want to leave her? well, you tell us. because of your hesitance and whatnot, i imagine right now its “just one of those feelings.” even though you can’t put a finger on the reasons right now, i speak from experience when i say that they are often right. just be careful that before you act you do pinpoint whats going on.

i suggest a marriage counsellor. don’t tell your wife that you want to see one because you’re thinking of leaving her, but suggest you do it just to improve your relationship. obviously, tell your counsellor alone that this is the reason you have decided to visit so he or she may help you out better.

i’m not sure what else to say, but i wish you the best of luck with this situation.

procorpamcha #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Do you have kids? they always come first. We are responsible for them. Now if there is physical abuse and constant fighting and no love, that hurts the kids as well. Only you know, but have been there and done that. You must learn to live in peace or get out. Good luck

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (32 minutes after post)

You need to make a list of the positives and negatives of your marriage and decide if the negatives are worth the positives.
Maybe for you they are and that’s why you haven’t left yet.

capetorial 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 53 minutes after post)

Chameleon wrote:
You need to make a list of the positives and negatives of your marriage and decide if the negatives are worth the positives.
Maybe for you they are and that’s why you haven’t left yet.

please odnt be a moron and think 1 positive is directly equal to the value of 1 negative

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jun #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 hours, 21 minutes after post)

maybe spend some time apart. you can clear your head better that way and decide how you really feel.

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