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My boyfriend just left for college.

This isn’t the first time though. Last year, he went away too. I was so upset the first two weeks, I stopped eating and I felt so heart broken. But over time, I realized that I shouldn’t be so needy and ridiculous. It also helped our relationship grow stronger! I thought I would be able to handle it this year. I’m so happy for him–he gets to move in with some really good people. But when he left, all I could do was cry. I’m mad at myself for being upset over this, because I really seemed okay at first. Anyway, I need help. It’s very understandable to miss someone you love, but I don’t know how to cope with it and not be so upset. I know my relationship will be fine with him, because we talk to each other every day, and I am going to go up there every two weeks to visit. But how do I handle the pain I am dealing with now? I want to get to the part where I’m used to him being gone and I am able to be happy again. It seems that will never happen right now, but I know it will come eventually. What do I do in the mean time? I just want the pain to go away now. I can’t stand feeling like this. What can I do to make it go away faster?

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Queen-of-Hearts offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Round up a few of your friends who you know you can fall back on and go somewhere(movie, beach whatever) then ask them to drag you out of your house at least twice a week to go have fun with them. This means you’ll still have time to talk to your boyfriend but you’ll also have people to make sure you have fun and don’t spend the whole time pitying yourself. :)

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 year, 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

write him love letters.

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Jena offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Queen-of-Hearts wrote:
Round up a few of your friends who you know you can fall back on and go somewhere(movie, beach whatever) then ask them to drag you out of your house at least twice a week to go have fun with them. This means you’ll still have time to talk to your boyfriend but you’ll also have people to make sure you have fun and don’t spend the whole time pitying yourself. :)

That’s a good idea! Unfortunately though, he was really my only friend. That sounds pathetic I know, but it’s true. I’m not really close enough to anybody to just call them up and ask them to hang out =\ That doesn’t mean I don’t want friends or anything, it’s just been really hard for me lately to find some good friends.

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Queen-of-Hearts offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

What about family? That sounds kind of lame-o but you could just hang out with a sibling or something. Or you could join something fun, like pottery, that you can meet friends at and it forces you to go once a week. ^^

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ezpz offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (4 hours, 3 minutes after post)

you remind me of this song

Kate Nash “Nicest Thing”


Original on YouTube.com

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYWv_N…

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Jena offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (21 hours, 57 minutes after post)

ezp0 wrote:
you remind me of this song

Kate Nash “Nicest Thing”


Original on YouTube.com

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYWv_N…

how did you know?

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Jena offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (21 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Jena wrote:

Queen-of-Hearts wrote:
Round up a few of your friends who you know you can fall back on and go somewhere(movie, beach whatever) then ask them to drag you out of your house at least twice a week to go have fun with them. This means you’ll still have time to talk to your boyfriend but you’ll also have people to make sure you have fun and don’t spend the whole time pitying yourself. :)

That’s a good idea! Unfortunately though, he was really my only friend. That sounds pathetic I know, but it’s true. I’m not really close enough to anybody to just call them up and ask them to hang out =\ That doesn’t mean I don’t want friends or anything, it’s just been really hard for me lately to find some good friends.

I followed your advice anyway. I called up some old friends of mind and they invited me to go out with them. Even though I didn’t know them very well it was still a lot of fun. Thank you! :)

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Queen-of-Hearts offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (23 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Glad I could help. ;)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

I am in the exact same boat as u!! like EXACTLY. we should talk! do you have aim?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (3 days, 22 hours after post)

my boyfriend just left on august 23. I’m gunna die

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 days, 19 hours after post)

i am going to be a junior in high school and my boyfriend of two amazing years just went to college two hours away. we have an amazing relationship and do not plan on ever breaking up. He lives on my street so i use to see him every day. it is extremely difficult without him. i cry every day. and just like you, i cry because i get upset that i am crying over this. i really do want to be happy again. its like the only thing i look forward to is seeing him and nothing else matters, and it shouldnt be that way. i know exactly how you feel. but as long as you keep yourself busy and have faith, it will all work it if its meant to be.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 months after post)

im in the same situation…i thot i was the only one…do u want to talk?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

find a new boy friend then you will be happy

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

just go out with someone you like other than u r boy friend and have some fun. just let go your boyfriend if u don’t then u will go crazy. be happy!!!!

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

i understand your pain, it sucks because he has to leave & you can’t do anything about it. But you should remember that you don’t have it all that bad. I live in Hawaii and my boyfriend is leaving to the mainland, i can’t visit him every 2 weeks like you can. So you should be grateful that he’s not thousands of miles away from you, it may hurt but you always have to remember that there’s someone out there who has it worse. Just go out and have fun with your friends, & when you get to see him, make every moment last. that’s what i would do.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (12 months after post)

im in the sane boat too, and it hurts so bad. i just try and do stuff all the time. he and i are actually closer than weve ever been.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 year after post)

im in a similar situation. he has just left for a 7 year university course! mines a three year one, but we’ve spoken about us and want to stay together through everything. the only thing is, he has left and is having a freshers week already, and most of my other friends have already gone to uni, im going later than most of them, and so theres no one here to see or distract me from being so upset about all this!

we’re three hours away and will only get to see each other once a month probably. its killing me, he’s become my best friend as well as boyfriend, and im really happy he’s having an amazing time already at uni, because he was so nervous about it, but i just wish i could relate, and be in the same situation at the same time as him, but i dont want to be unhappy and bring him down.

i cant stop crying and im not happy without him near. its horrible.

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northwarriors201 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 year after post)

My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a monthish and he left for college today I have cried almost all day I thought I was ok with all this up until that good bye my parents are very strict on letting me go to the college to see him and I mean he is only like fourth five mins away but I feel like I will never see him and I just feel like no one understands my pain what do i do to stop crying and kissing him sooo much? I am a senior in high school and this is all so hard please help

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