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Talk it out, *Cough Cough* How does that make you feel?

awww!

i have felt the same way only worse
i am surrounded ny close friends
that i can’t open up to
i am a complete nutcase

:(

*bad vibes*

ehh

no.

Maybe you need a few pen pals to write to and tell your day. I know I could do with a couple. I too don’t get any calls and visits but, I can’t control the way people behave but I can control my own thoughts.

First you need to change yourself and how you feel before you can get the notice of others.

I tell you what; I will be your pen pal and I can assure you that my replies will be considerably longer than a few sentences.

Aw, I know just how you feel :(
When you learn how to fix it, tell me!

Here’s a suggestion. Do you need friends to have fun? Can you not go to the cinema without someone else? You need to learn to do things by yourself and stop relying in other people to entertain and as soon as you realise that you don’t need anyone to have fun, you will relax and enjoy the little time you do have with your friends.

Get out of the house, go some where, anywhere. Try to tell yourself that life is great. I know it is a delusion but it’s work for religion for thousands of years.

yesterday i heard a man say that it is in his loneliness that he was able to find God. in the solitude. when you are alone you are usually very perceptive to your truest dreams and desires. this is not a bad place to be.

jackiethesongstres wrote:
yesterday i heard a man say that it is in his loneliness that he was able to find God. in the solitude. when you are alone you are usually very perceptive to your truest dreams and desires. this is not a bad place to be.

I have to disagree with that, there is a difference of choosing solitude, and just being lonely. While yeah, it can have it’s advantages, but it can also lead to unhappiness.

Del-z, there’s not much advice I can give you personally except that it sounds to me like you may have depression. And that’s a sucky place to be in. You say that your friends and family seem to have left you behind or forgotten about you, perhaps you need to meet new people or perhaps looking at a new direction in your social life rather than focusing on your current business now.

You’re extremely unhappy, and for several reasons, you need to talk to someone. Divorce causes a lot of emotional strain and stress, and that can sometimes lead to where you’re at now, including depression, I’d suggest you talk to someone and perhaps you might be able to find some way to bust through this.

In the meantime, I’m very glad you have found us on this site, we’re here to listen if you ever need to talk, or just vent out your frustrations. A lot of us actually found ourselves here the same way, so you’re certainly not alone.

del-z wrote:
I wonder if this is what it feels like to go insane. Like I’m slowly drowning in emptiness. This emptiness is so palpable too. Like an increasing pressure that threatens to enclose and crush me out of existance.

Look, I’m not in need of a trip to Thailand. Leave that to those who are looking for fast lay.

Lucky, you are going insane :P

You can be in a room full of friends and be the loneliest person on the face of the planet. It is hard to overcome loneliness but speaking to your neighbours might help, saying good morning to people will help. Eventually your neighbours might invite you over and you will have someone new to talk to.

del-z wrote:
I’d rather be able to pick and choose my insanity. I’d prefer it with light music, in a big room full of soft pillows.

No neighbors. Long story there, but basically I’ve moved into my office.

You need to turn around your life, get some friends, take a vacation, have some fun, and get out of the rut so you can see people and stuff like that

del-z wrote:
I’d rather be able to pick and choose my insanity. I’d prefer it with light music, in a big room full of soft pillows.

No neighbors. Long story there, but basically I’ve moved into my office.

Sounds to me like you’re a workaholic. That can not only be damaging to your physical health, but you’re already realizing what it’s doing in other areas of you life. That’s not a healthy situation to be in.

Perhaps taking others advice her would be beneficial for you. Take that vacation, and let loose for a bit. I hear Bali is nice this time of year.

You’ve already expressed that you’re not happy with the way things are going, so why don’t you move? You also said you’re self-employed, so make vacation time for yourself. That’s the beauty of it.

You’re welcome, del-z. I hope we helped as much as we could. :)

I know this is probably corny but, have you ever thought of writing something of a fictional basis.

Let your mind go wild and just write a story. I would love to read it once it’s done. Don’t worry yourself to much on the spelling and grammer, just get some ideas onto paper or the computer.

Have a look at this and tell me what you think.

http://www.davesworld.org.uk/blogs/Th…

Good luck :D

thanks, you replied about my mum… I think yours was the best point. You seem to have an insight into my mothers situation.

I sometimes also feel very tired and down. Sometimes I feel full of energy too.

I would suggest that maybe you try little by little to improve parts of yourself that you are not happy with. Maybe try something new, that you have wanted to do. Try to challenge yourself, start doing things that you wouldn’t normally do to keep things fresh.

Maybe my advice is not so good, but hopefully you can improve from your present situation.

just know that you’re definitely not alone mate…
what keeps me going is only my work and my playstation 3 at home.
anyway, just try to keep positive thought, watch funny movies and laugh out loud, stuff like that.

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start forming a new circle of friends..
just don’t let loneliness to conquer you..

Have you tried joining dating sites?

You may not find love, but you will go out and have dates and meet new people. Some of those people might become friends? After my divorce I did this. I wasn’t looking for ‘the one’ or love really, but going out there, feeling hopeful and anticipating good times helped me enormously in moving on when my life seemed empty and lonely.

Perhaps you have to learn to reach out too? People don’t come knocking on your door to find you. Join groups, go to local places of interest or perhaps even volunteer in some way for an hour or two a week. Just put yourself in the world and try to adjust. Make the most of yourself too. It’s easy to become a slob when you have no one in your life.

I felt some self-pity when my grown-up children moved on and got places of their own. I felt left behind and redundant but just as they went out to live their lives I had to adjust and live mine. It was hard. I felt very left behind, alone and forgotten. I wanted to cry. The house became quiet and empty. I had too much space for the first time in 25 years and I felt so vulnerable and unloved. Try not to indulge in too much self-pity (although I did, many times!) The ‘poor me’ attitude brought me down even lower. Count your blessings too….that helps.

Sorry if this sounds corny but we really do have to make a life for ourselves because no one else is going to do it for us. Good luck…I hope things look up for you soon, but remember you are the captain of your ship. You are at the helm and you decide where it sails.