life help: I am so starting to HATE my mother and she either doesn’t get it or won’t acknowledge it.

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I am so starting to HATE my mother and she either doesn’t get it or won’t acknowledge it.

I resent her constantly giving me unsolicited unwanted unneeded advice and I tell her about this when she does it. It is to the point that I don’t even discuss any of my life with her whenever we do talk. So this gives her free reign to instead talk about my brother and sister about the mistakes they make. And that is fine because I don’t want to hear it about my life. If I want to take a vacation to Vegas or go to the casino she should not be trying to tell me not to do these things. She tells me gambling is in our blood and I can become easily addicted. She mentions how my brother gambles, I said well give him this advice and not me. And give it to his kids since it “runs in the family”. She says well they don’t gamble. And I don’t either. I didn’t say that because I don’t feel the need to justify to her. There’s many other things to do in Vegas and at our Casino I go for the festivals as well as concerts. But another incident where she pissed me off was I had told my sister that my daughters medicine got changed. Well my sister decides to mention this innocently to my mother and next thing she is telling me is this stuff can kill my daughter (a 10 year old) and that I shouldn’t be giving it to her everyday. I said this is to control her asthma and she has to have it every day. I just got so mad today. And it was to the point where I could feel physical discomfort in my chest. This is why I so need to vent. I think I truly need to cut her out of my life completely. Thank you.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

glad you got that off your chest! but it is rubbish to have bad feelings with family members is she very set in her ways? is there no way you can work out a compromise?

Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

no compromising with her. we’ve been down that road before and she starts out like she is changing but give her a couple of conversations and she is full force back to her old ways.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

My mother is wayyyyyy worse than yours. She’s a drunk, and a drug addict, who has told me herself that she does not want all of her grandchildren to be black when I had my second son. My mother is white, I am half black. If you want to hear how my mother is worse than your I can tell you other things that make your mother sound like an angel.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 3 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Well, either accept her for what she can add to your life, or be done. She will not change, probably doesn’t know how. Now you are left with the decision of either saying oh well that is my overbearing judgmental mother or say get out of here if you are not going to be useful.

It sucks having to be the parent of your parent.

Sandpiper 0 #
Woodend, 07, AU | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 hours, 30 minutes after post)

Your mother does sound annoying but also very well meaning. There doesn’t seem to be any doubt that she loves you and is concerned for your welfare. My mother used to annoy me to the point that I couldn’t even be in the same room with her at times so you can understand I have a lot of guilt since she died.

I really think motherhood stresses some women out so much that they go a little crazy. I don’t know what you do. See less of her? tell her less about your life? be more tolerant?

yeller9 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

I hate my mom’ she is a fat slob and she is so greedy I hate her sooooo much she thinks of herself and not her kids it is ridiclious

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mafte 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (4 months, 3 weeks after post)

i’m starting to think a lot of women have babies for themselves more than to actually create another human being.

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