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Boyfriend moving abroad

Hi, I’m from Ireland.Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years and we just finished up college in may and have found it hard to get jobs. Been to loads of interviews. We even discussed last week about going to work in New Zealand in january for a year.
However he just received a job offer from a company in Ireland but the job has now changed, locating him to Saudi Arabia.
The money is $50k+ a year, with accomodation and all expenses already paid for him. That is way more than he’d get in Ireland, but of all coutries for it be in.

He’s got a couple days to decide whether he’s going to take it. We still have to sit down properly to discuss it but i duno what to do. The company gives him 2 weeks off every 12 weeks so he can come home, but is that enough to keep our relationship?I’ve never done long distance.

Me going to live in Saudi Arabia isn’t an option, its not the place i could see myself being able to live. Anywhere else i would definetly consider.

If he stays there 3- 5 years, when he comes back he’ll have a pick of well paid managerial positions in Ireland.

Any thoughts or advice from anyone??

thanks

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Hi there

I’m from Ireland.Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years and we just finished up college in may and have found it hard to get jobs. Been to loads of interviews. We even discussed last week about going to work in New Zealand in january for a year.
However he just received a job offer from a company in Ireland but the job has now changed, locating him to Saudi Arabia.
The money is $50k+ a year, with accomodation and all expenses already paid for him. That is way more than he’d get in Ireland, but of all coutries for it be in.

He’s got a couple days to decide whether he’s going to take it. We still have to sit down properly to discuss it but i duno what to do. The company gives him 2 weeks off every 12 weeks so he can come home, but is that enough to keep our relationship?I’ve never done long distance.

Me going to live in Saudi Arabia isn’t an option, its not the place i could see myself being able to live. Anywhere else i would definetly consider.

If he stays there 3- 5 years, when he comes back he’ll have a pick of well paid managerial positions in Ireland.

Any thoughts or advice from anyone??

thanks

c-eek 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (19 minutes after post)

I think it has to be his decision, even though it means that your life will change, too. If he goes, and has too much trouble adjusting to life without you by his side on a daily basis, he can always quit. Then, you could go with your original plan to move to New Zealand. If the job in Saudi Arabia turns out to be one that he enjoys, couldn’t you travel to visit with him, there? I understand that you would not wish to live there, but a visit now and then might not be too bad. That combined with the 2 weeks off every 12 weeks should be enough for you to continue your relationship. The possible benefits seem to outweigh the risks.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

hey thanks for the reply

The job being in Saudi Arabia is one of the main issues as i was looking it up and it’ll b virtually impossible to visit him, lots of stuff about getting sponsorship and rules, not women friendly etc etc, not to mention the cost of the flight, nearly €1000.( which he has offered to pay for as v expensive)

He is still thinking about it but I am the only reason he’s not jumping at the chance (he’s never done the travelling thing and really wants out of Ireland), so i don’t want him to regret it if he doesn’t go.I’m 100% behind him but worry willit last.

He’ll be getting his contract to look over in a day or two before he decides but i think its a min 3 years there. If it was a year we could work it out. he’ll be travelling in around europe, but mainly the US aswell with the job so he’ll b v busy. Just if its for 5 years, it will definetly put a strain in the relationship

c-eek 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

With all that travelling, couldn’t you meet up with him in one of the other countries. I sounds like a great opportunity for both of you, really. As for the relationship lasting, many couples have been separated for longer periods of time and their relationships have become stronger for it. In this day and age, communication is so much easier than ever before. Back in the old days, when couples were separated by miles, the only communication was via letter writing. I am of that generation and I remember how that was. If your sweetheart does take the job, you will find ways to keep the love alive. Have confidence in yourself. The reasons that he loves you will draw him to you from the far ends of the earth.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

If I was you i would tell your boyfriend how you really feel and really all you can do is go from there… After all if he loves you maybe he is willing to sacrifice the job… who knows.

eireann1 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 week after post)

hi, i really feel for you! :( what age are u and what age is he?
i might sound harsh but it wud b very selfish if u didnt let him go.. fair enough you’l miss him, but if it was you that got this once in a lifetime oppurtunity you’d expect his support… if he goes to saudi arabia he wil make enough money for you and him to have a GREAT life!! think of it, where do u picture yourself in 5 years…? think of how great it would be if u gave him this chance!…

after all, absence makes the heart grow fonder..

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (10 months, 2 weeks after post)

MY boyfriend is not here he is in America and his birthday in next week i so wanna give him a suprise i may not be able to fly America i really dont know wat to do…..can u give me some suggestions.

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