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By using smaller words.

If I join an online group, I usually just watch and see how others interact first. I like to get an idea of who the other members are and kind of the social rules that they follow in that group. Once I watch for a while, I usually feel more comfortable beginning to interact more.

Michael is that you in your avatar?

I’ve always wondered that.

Can you just say what you think, maybe a short comment? Maybe after you do that a few times you’ll be more confident.

Michael Leibman wrote:
um, yeah, my picture is me. Why would you wonder that?

why not?

Possibly you make it out to be more difficult than it is.

Michael Leibman wrote:
um, yeah, my picture is me. Why would you wonder that?

Because i like it for some reason :)

Unless you just happen into a group of jerks, there’s no reason that being yourself and taking your time won’t result in people liking you. The more you get to know them, the more natural the conversation will seem.

What ive learned today is JUST BE YOU! And people will gravitate towards you. I thought i pushed people away because they didnt like my personality, but that was not the case at all. I push them away because i was giving off a “dont talk to me” vibe. Its more noticable than i ever imagined because as soon as i started being myself i held longer and more comfortable conversations (you know not stressed or fake, if that makes any sense). I was comfortable in my own skin. Once you achieve that you will probably be able to adapt to any atmosphere/group of people who are interested enough to get to know you. Because there are some jerks who you just have to ignore which is ok. Just know to keep it moving and find another group, or in this case, another forum….

This is the only site that I have talk to people on. So I am sorry, I do not have any good advise for you.
I think you are witty and I enjoy the comments you make on post. I am sure others will enjoy your input just as much.

You are not “incredibly stupid and incompetent” . I do not like to hear you say something like that. If you want to be more confident in conversing with people, saying negative things about yourself is not going to help. Tell yourself how smart, fun, and likable you are.

Okay so maybe I did pull out some good advise. =)

I didnt even see that part “incredibly stupid and incompetent”. YOU ARE NOT THOSE THINGS! I also like your wit and sense of humor. I do think you over analyze certain situations though, but hey SO DO I lol. You are WONDERFUL Michael and i wish you saw that! Its sad that people who dont even know you see something special in you that you fail to see/recognize in yourself. Its also sad because i do the same, but thats besides the point. Learn to LOVE yourself because it feels great when you do.

(i think im getting a bit emotional lol…)