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I want to have more space and be let alone.

I tryed to break-up with my boyfriend but it was just to hard ’cause I still love him. But I’m not ready to handle all of this. So we desided on a break. But I’m getting overly stressed about all this ’cause he still wants to hang out and everything but I don’t. I just want to be left alone. He keeps getting me confused also because he is all like “I don’t know if we should still do this relationship” and then a minute later “Lets try again, do you want to hang out?” so I’m like “um okay when and what will we do?” “So he is like “Nevermind I don’t want to be a burden” and that keeps going on and on. Which just starts making me really mad, which confuses him because he doesn’t understand why I am mad. I’m a passive person so its hard to tell him my feelings. This is all just so hard for me and I have no idea what to do. So if you have any advice that would be great.

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EmilyRI offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 9 months ago (11 minutes after post)

You obviously just need space. And I think somewhere you can achieve that goal while also being with the person you love.
Dedicate certain time to being with him but let him know you also would enjoy your time spent alone. And that that has nothing to do with you not wanting to see him it’s just you want to keep yourself balanced.
It’s very healthy!
Too much time spent together can end relationships or get to smothering.

But, if you don’t want to be with him AT ALL, tell him and stick with it instead of you guys playing games with each other which can get painful

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