school help: When I married my husband I thought that everything from then on was going to be great.

Zombie

When I married my husband I thought that everything from then on was going to be great.

We were going to start our careers, and start a family. He had a good job, making good money, and I was about to start school. After I started working we were going to move out of my parents house and buy a home. Then He got sick. He had sever pnuemonia in both lungs, MRSA, and he also became septic. He was in the hospital for over a month on life support. He almost didn’t make it. Then he got better. It was a miracle. And we were happy for a while because he was alive, and we got our future back. We didn’t even think about what recovery would be like. He had lost his job because he couldn’t go to work. He got on disability which was less than half of our previous income, and we could no longer pay our bills. We were lucky if we had enough gas to get to doctor appointments. Right when he got sick we were just about to pay off a big portion of our debt. But we couldn’t because that was all the money we had left, and there wouldn’t be any money coming our way. So now our credit is horrible, and we owe out the ears. I tried finding a job, but there were no jobs available that were nearby. And getting job far from home would hardly be worth it because the gas expense alone would be ate up by the gas tank. Then he was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, which would explain his anger, and temper issues. Plus on top of that he was in constant pain from the surgery that had been done on him. And on top of that our insurance just ran out because he is no longer working. I just started school. I am completing my Pre-reqs for nursing school. But his disability is about to run out and I don’t know if I will even be able to afford to stay in school. I can’t work and go to school, and take care of him, and take care of his daughter whom he has shared custody. He has started to not care about the future and doesn’t even think he’ll be around for the future. I am about to lose hope, and there is no breaks, no one to help. I’m tired of borrowing money that I don’t even know if I can pay back. We seem to be getting one road block after another. And I don’t know how much more I can take. My one goal in live of having children may not even be possible. It seems that I am not able to get pregnant without any treatment, and even if I could how would we be able to pay for anything. Our goal was to one day move to Britain where the healthcare as I have researched, seems to be pretty amazing. But I dont know how we will ever be able to afford it. I don’t know what the point of writing all this is, other than to see all of my bad luck typed out. I feel like this world has cheated us out of our happiness. And I don’t know how much more I can take.

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chev.jame 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

Your priority now is to support your husband. He’s been through a lot. The marriage vows said, “for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.” That’s quite a commitment. It’s one thing to say those words, and quite another to honor those vows over a lifetime. Now, that’s not to beat you up, but to put things in perspective. Your priority right now is not school; it is working and helping to get your family on its financial feet. Do that and finish school later. Jobs are out there . . . not necessariy glamorous jobs, but jobs that will pay something toward your expenses. Actually, I am wondering why you are even considering going to school at this point. Right now your family should be your priority. You are stressing yourself and your husband by trying to go to school at this time. It’s not like you are 109 years old and only have a little time left to go to school! By the way, be sure you vote in the election and insist that whoever gets your vote cleans up the health care mess.

Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Some how you have to keep going.I know its easy to say but i have gone through worse ,believe me and i was a lot older. Finnish the nursing then you will be able to do better .You know sometimes i thought there is no light at the End of that Tunnel ,but there is just keep going . May the Force give all the Strength you need….

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (4 hours, 42 minutes after post)

Stay in school!!!!!

Don’t even consider dropping out!

You need that education to improve your life later, when things stabilize. Grunt jobs are always there, but the chance to make a future for yourself is not guaranteed to ever be around again, and a grunt job at the dry cleaner’s won’t pay tuition.

Too many people think they have a lifetime to go back to school, only to spend a lifetime wishing they’d never, ever, ever dropped out.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 hours, 46 minutes after post)

I’m still suggesting a break from school until you and your husband can get your feet on the ground. He may look at your going to school as preparations on your part to leave him and start a new life without him. I have taken breaks from school when going through things like you have. I went back and finished. But your husband and his recovery should be your first priority right now. You need to bring in some income, and all of the income that you possibly can. All of the diplomas in the world cannot take the place of knowing that you were there for your family!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (19 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Thank you all for your words of encouragment. I’m new to this place so I don’t how to go about replying to select people. To chev.jame I really do thank you for taking the time to reply to me, but if I was the sort of person to forget my wedding vows I would have never gotten married to begin with. If I quit school my chance at being an RN goes down the toilet. Because it is a three year waiting list to even get into the RN program. And becoming an RN is what will help my husband because then I will have great benefits, especially if I work in a hospital, and so my husband will have great benefits. Which means he can go to the doctor, and we can pay for his prescriptions. Do you know what working at taco bell would pay for? The drive to the doctor…maybe. I should thank you because your words actually made me realize that I need to stay in school. Now that I realize it my husband is proud of me for going to school, and he would be so dissapointed if I quit. The only way to take care of my husband is to secure our future, and make him believe that we have one.

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