Does anyone else know how it feels to be troubled about this every day and every night?
You see, my family is mainly a very different religion, but I’ve chosen to be Christian. A friend of mine has been helping me out for a long time in lue of church. My mother already hates him so I haven’t told her he was the one helping me. But what worries me day and night is the fact that my family, the people I love the very most, may in fact be going to Hell. And it terrifies me. I refuse to judge them or anyone else on whether they’re Christian or not, but they seem to think I’m going to start doing that. They believe in a crazy religion (Well, all religion is crazy in a way, but this one is very unusual.) that has so many things I can’t believe in. My mom thinks I’m denying my psychic ablities and closing my mind, but I don’t think I have much of a choice. It makes me cry at times, just the thought that I’ve given up most of the things I knew, and maybe even my family. Sometimes I even have nightmares about it. I still love them so much, but I have to believe the way I want to believe. Part of me wants to believe in what they do, that everyone goes to Heaven, that there’s a mother and father God, that ghosts can communicate with us, mostly the first, but I just can’t. Not anymore. It just kills me. I want to be a good Christian, and I want to go to Heaven, but Heaven wouldn’t be Heaven without them. My friend tries to comfort me and tell me that they may still come to Jesus, or he’ll say that God sent Jesus to turn us against our parents in this way. It just saddens and scares me though. And I couldn’t imagine my mother or brothers in Hell, or anything like that. I couldn’t imagine anyone there. The worst part is Mom doesn’t like that I’m becoming Christian and refuses to become one herself. And I’m afraid that I may have to detach myself from my family. So I don’t know if there’s much hope. And right now I’m choking back tears.
Please, can someone tell me everything’s going to be okay, or that they know how I feel? Please?
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well.. i know how it feels.. but. whether or not its going to be okay is up to you. you should share this with your mother. really talk about how this situation is making you feel.
then tell her its not about what religion either of you are. its about being family. and taking care of each other no matter what. caring about the others life
and just because they follow a different religion that doesnt follow your god doesnt mean that they are going to hell. they are doing nothing wrong from what you’v said.
And my god, could you be learning from the selfish? you sound like one of those life time Christians that are close minded people and want to convert every one to Christianity
i say, you be what you want to be and let them be what they want to be, and just keep religion out of the family affairs
Heather . . . simply trust God. Give your first allegiance to Him, and leave the rest up to His mercy. Sometimes we must choose between God and our family. Mat. 10:37-38 says: “He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that doth not take his cross and follow after me, is not worthy of me.”
Trust God to bring your family members along afterwards . . . He will offer, and they have only to accept.
this is what christains call a trail you will come out stronger but you have to trust god and have faith in what you believe I know how you feel believe me got made fun of alot when I got saved please dont get discouraged.any time you need advice or just someone to talk to I’m here for you.
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My suggestion is to pray for your family everyday. There is still hope for them! And Jesus feels the same way that you do about your family, he wants all people to turn to him. So pray, hope, and live your life as an example to them. I hope this encourages you.
It sounds’ like you have been pestering your family - Fixing your eyes on them - Your eyes should be fixed on Jesus. When you look to this world, your heart becomes sad. If they believe in the spirit realm of the dead, that is there choice.
As for you, please don’t be sad for them - GOD is more than capable of bringing your whole family into his kingdom. The LORD doesn’t work in our time - No, His work is done in his own good time.
As for your life - Those who have Christ are very beautiful - Jesus is beauty. Pay more attention to becoming a decent person - Rather than a good person - only GOD is good.
Decency is the better attitude. Don’t break the law - Don’t do drugs’ - Don’t swear in your parents’ home (don’t use bad words’ at all) - The list is endless. I hope you don’t mind me giving you this advice.
Hi Heather, I know this post is older, but I hope you’re working thing out:) Under religion I have posted private as I don’t get into discussions about it because I’m not a Minister, plus I don’t have the skills. For you my dear I’ll break my rules a bit. Honour thy Father means a lot of different things, not do as your mom and dad say. Your faith is between you and God, not them. Spending Jesus’s name can be done with any words what so ever, just actions or leading by example:) You don’t have to worry one minute about your family going to hell….not your call. God’s judgement and he reserves the right to change his mind at any moment..usually the last..lol. He’s something very important, beware of false prophets…if anybody suggests you should “detach” yourself from your family..warning! Shout me. You are doing a good job and life is a work in progress…lol. On another note; how are you and are you having any fun?
Thanks Max_needs. I haven’t been on the computer much because my has hundreds of viruses, the internet refuses to work, professionals can’t fix it, and my little brothers accidentally broke my only powercord. As a matter of fact, my friend, who’s name I can’t mention because now he might be floating around on here, has been trying to tell me things that I know in my heart can’t be true. Sometimes I wish he were just my friend again. Someone I could hang with and turn to. But I guess not. As a plus, he and my family don’t like each other at all. He won’t even talk to me at school anymore. But my life has been looking up. Like when I wanted to help a bi friend of mine because I believe they should be treated equally and respected like Jesus and God love us no matter what. He said that I couldn’t be a Christian. I told him what I thought and that it was God who decided, not him. Various things would set him off about me not being a Christian, such and wanted people to be able to choose to have and abortion. But really, I think the Holy Spirit is guiding me, and I have a feeling it wants me to help others love each other and respect them no matter what. But once again, thank all of you.
Heather, I cannot for the life of me imagine why a guy would want to date another guy rather than, say, Angelina Jolie . . . but I do know this: NO ONE can say who is going to heaven and who is going to hell. I don’t think God wants ANYONE to go to hell. How do you get to hell? By saying “no” to God one too many times . . . but God is the judge of what is “too many times.” I also know that you must treat everyone with dignity and respect. There are people whose views on religion and politics are diametrically opposed to mine . . . but I am their friend, and they are mine. I can disagree with your opinion and your choices and still remain your friend. After all, you really need a friend AFTER you’ve made a bad choice! I have made many bad choices in my life, and I thank God that He and my friends did not desert me as a result. Now, as a friend, I believe it is my duty to tell someone if I think he or she is making some huge mistake . . . but I do NOT threaten to withdraw my friendship. And I know that condemnation does NOT work in the case of someone who may be sliding toward an incorrect moral choice. A certain priest once condemned me, and I KNOW that he will have to answer for his judgment to the Supreme Judge. I can be your friend, but I cannot be your friend AND your judge. And I will NOT judge you, be you Christian, Jew, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist or atheist. Only God can do that. And if I can do something for you that will help you make the right decision, then I will do so. But if you make the wrong decision anyway, I will still be here to help lift you up after you fall. And I appreciate my friends doing the same for me.
Pray and fast for your family (and for yourself - that Jesus will strengthen you and keep you as a light in their dark world that will draw them to him). I pray that your family will use the free will God’s given them to accept and choose Jesus as he is the only way to God and to heaven. God bless you and your family.
Dear troubled, You are the one that is to stand before God for your life. The best thing you can do for anyone is to pray for them. Prayer is a powerful thing. If you have been saved and ask God to come into your heart, then give it to him. that is the problem, you don’t trust him to handle things. He died for you and me, and the blood he shed covers everyone that has faith, We can cry, pray, but when it’s all said and done, God has it covered. It’s their choose to decide where they want to spend eternity. Faith is the most important part of being a Christain. Live your life as God would have you to. I know you want your family to be saved, but if you will give it up to Jesus, they will see him in your life, your smile, your tears, your faith, let the Lord shine through you, because no one wants to be someone that has no hope. Give it to the Lord, he is perfect, He made this world in 6 days, why do you think that he can’t hold you up, he’s your strength, your salvation. When they look into your eyes, hear you talk to others about God, if they don’t want to listen, then it’s done. God gave his only son so that we could have a life after death. Wow, If you have the faith the size of a mustard seed, God loves you and he knows our needs before we do. He sees our tears, our pain, Give it to God and he will never let you down. Let them see God through you, and the deed is done. I wish we could save everyone, music can touch a heart that you think is hard. God will only knock on your door so many times, and if they choose not to answer, than no amount of fussing can change anyone. I have a song for you, The Isaac’s are gospel family singers, and the song, “Sweet Holy Spirit” is on utube or on my facebook. Sharon Henderson. I pray that all of your troubles will end, but we are not in Heaven, but I am looking forward to see the one that saved me at the age of 16. My parents brought me up in church. My mother played the piano and I was rasied in church and the pew was my pack-n-play. I know I was saved before I was baptisted. My Lord has always had my heart. Non of us are perfect, or we would never get to Heaven. It’s the Love of the Lord and the Faith and Strenght he gave me has gotten me through so much. I have my problems, and I tell the Lord to give me Strenght. I can still hear my mother sang and play “Amazing Grace”! There are those that can play, and those that play for the Lord. Live for the Lord, when they see how happy God has made you, I trust they will want to feel as happy as you are. If they get on something negitive, that is the Devil working through them to break you down. Did you know that the devil can not hear you pray inside, he can’t read your mind, always remember that. Say, Satan get behind me, satan get behind me, over and over, and God will never put on you more than you can take. Find you a verse in the bible and say it over and over. The best bible is The King James Bible! It may be hard at first to understand the way it is written, but don’t give up, God will reveal the answers to you. The perfect song to sing is “Amazing Grace”, If you can keep singing this song over and over, I promise you are never alone. Please go on my Facebook and hear the song sung by Sonja Isaac “Sweet Holy Spirit” and “He Understands My Tears” her family, you will feel the Holy spirit in your soul, and he will be with you forever. God bless, Sha
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