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well I have been dating my fiancé for almost two years and I used to be soooooo happy.

Then we started fighting and now I stay in a state of depression eighty percent of the time. I don’t know what else to do but cry, I even cry in front of her. Things get better sometimes but not for long. I don’t know, its just not the same as it used to be. any advice? Is this a phase? Is it normal? I love the girl to death. Its so depressing :( please help

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1 year, 3 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Leave. Resurrecting happiness is like digging up a grave by going through the wrong side of the planet.

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Yes, I do believe it is a phase and it is normal. You’re getting past the “infatuation” part of a relationship.

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1 year, 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

True love doesn’t cause depression. Give this girl the boot and find someone more compatible.

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hhicksellis6 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (23 minutes after post)

It could be a phase. After about two years the newness wears off,people let their guard down, reality sets in, and things sometimes aren’t as romantic as they were. Hang in there, and try to support one another as best as you can.

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kamilien offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

discuss it thoroughly with her and don’t leave out any of the details. I would have this be done on the weekend. You guys are a couple, you need to work things out together. If you aren’t working things out together, split that pod open and get your pea out.

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

hhicksellis6 has it right. You guys are now going past the first phase.
The next phase you face will test your relationship. Like Kamilien says, you both need to recognize what is happening and work together to get beyond it.

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dogmatren offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

you say you suffer from depression. is it possible that it could not be just the relationship and perhaps your own problems as an individual but somehow they are manifesting within the relationship? if not, apologies.

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