Love help: does he really love me? - Help.com

Awful song quote….. “Its in his kiss! That’s where it is!” lol

Seriously though… just ask him!

If he says he does and shows he does, you should just trust that he does. Once you can trust his love for you, don’t doubt it because you’ll make yourself crazy!

Mind to tell anything else?

I think the showing part is the one to more mindful of!
And yes, doubting love is not so good. It does drive you crazy, and sometimes that doubt can push you to push the other person… and often that results in pushing them away.

Dougie the Pisces wrote:
I think the showing part is the one to more mindful of!And yes, doubting love is not so good. It does drive you crazy, and sometimes that doubt can push you to push the other person… and often that results in pushing them away.

So true. Write your worries down about how you think he feels or doesn’t feel. Then crumple that paper up and throw it away!!!!

Or burn it!
Which I don’t mean in a bad way!
There’s something about burning a piece of paper with all your worries written on it, that has a profound releasing effect :)

Hah!

Hey saraigarcia1 I think you accidentally made another post instead of replying to this one.

How old are you guys?
Him acting different around his friends is actually normal. As long as he isnt REALLY ignoring you.
Guys are different with their friends. But if its healthy, it’s not a bad thing.

My boyfriend talks cute to me but he wouldn’t be caught dead talking like that to his friends. I respect that obviously as long as he isn’t saying anything bad, ya know?

What kind of different?? Do you not like the way he acts? Is he trying to maybe impress his friends by being macho?

Love is such a strange, wonderful thing that nobody really has codified what it is yet. And to further complicate matters, there are so many different kinds of love: the love you feel for a friend, a family member, a sport or even a pet. This is such a crazy emotion that there is absolutely no way that I can definitively answer how you know it is love… but I am going to give it a try!

Now, in order to find out if you love someone, the basic place to start would be to ask yourself, do you want to be with them? If the answer to that question is no, then it really can’t be love. When you love someone, you want to be with them. Not just be with them, but share everything with them. You have a great day at work and want to rush home and tell them every wonderful thing that has happened. You feel excited at the prospect of just being in their company, just being close to them isn’t enough, you want to be a part of them, a part of their life forever. You can’t stand the thought of being away from them yet, when you are, you still feel that ever-present bond that ties you together wherever you go. You can almost feel what they are feeling. You feel like, with a little bit of effort, you can see what they are seeing and think what they are thinking. It is almost as if you both can occupy each other’s bodies with complete trust and harmony. That to me is love.

Now, on the other side of the spectrum, there are a host of emotions that people confuse with love. One of the most common is lust. There is a difference between wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.

Being overly dependent on the other person is also not a part of love. Some people fall into the trap of thinking they love someone just because they are afraid to be alone. They have become dependent on the other person for so much that they don’t know how to make it on their own, or they would much rather be with someone than no-one.

This leads to the old cliché, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. Well, we’ve all heard that before, but what does it really mean? It means that you have to be confident in your own ability and your own judgement. You really have to like yourself and know what you have to offer another person. There is no way that you can love another person if you are so stuck in your own hang-ups that you bow down and propitiate to the other person. That is, you do anything they ask and agree with everything they say out of fear that they will love you less because you don’t do those things.

Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty cut and dry: you either are or you aren’t… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.

You should. Maybe he doesnt even realise he’s treating you this way!

get used to it, or leave him…
the long term answers…

saraigarcia1 wrote:
yeah probably..but what if he doesnt change then what do i do??

well if he continues to treat you that way, maybe you should let him know exactly what he stands to lose if he doesnt respect you more.

Here’s the scenario

You let him know what is happening
And then tell him how it makes you feel
He can then say “Oh, I didn’t realize I was making you feel this way. I’m sorry”
Or, he won’t get what you mean and continue with the same behavior.

but it’s essential you tell him. You can’t control his response but at least you’ll be sharing your feelings with him